I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do dogcraps towel stretches.. they are awesome for the deltoid. Deads are comming up, lower weight but higher rep than last time. Ever thought of switching to pull-ups? I did it a while ago and they give more lat workout IMO when done strict than chins done strict.Originally posted by gav
tried a chest day yesterday but my shoulder completely fvcked me over. it's sore on the front of my shoulder just as it attaches to the bicep, so i can't work out my biceps or chest
trying to sort it by doing db lateral raises everyday, which makes it feel a lot better. any other advice lads?
back and triceps
deads
100kg * 6
110kg * 8
115kg * 8
115kg * 7
wide grip chin ups
bw *
10
7
5
4
4sets tricep pushdowns 64kg * 6
3 sets bent over tricep extensions 59kg *6
2 sets db overhead onearm exts 10kg * 5
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Man I know exactly how u feel. I must have been going throuth the motions for the last 3 months. Partly because of injuries partly cause i lost motivation. Maybe you should take a week of review your goals and compeletly change your work out. thats what im going to do right now. It's no fun if your not challenging yourself. hope your shoulder gets better man.Originally posted by gav
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
Cool man, keep doing them and your shoulder will probably heal out. =)Originally posted by gav
legs yesterday
weight: 67-68kg
smith squats (attg)
60kg * 6
80kg * 4
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90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
leg exts (machine)
90kg * 8
90kg * 8
stiff leg deads
3 sets, 80kg * 6
calve raises
4 sets, 65kg * 8
i've started doing those towel things lifeforce; they're working pretty well straight after doing them, but my shoulder's still pretty fvcked.
would you recommend me doing deadlifts or pullups tomorrow if it's still sore? the injury doesn't affect my performance on the deads, but it's a little sore on the pullups.
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.