Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Do dogcraps towel stretches.. they are awesome for the deltoid. Deads are comming up, lower weight but higher rep than last time. Ever thought of switching to pull-ups? I did it a while ago and they give more lat workout IMO when done strict than chins done strict.Originally posted by gav
tried a chest day yesterday but my shoulder completely fvcked me over. it's sore on the front of my shoulder just as it attaches to the bicep, so i can't work out my biceps or chest
trying to sort it by doing db lateral raises everyday, which makes it feel a lot better. any other advice lads?
back and triceps
deads
100kg * 6
110kg * 8
115kg * 8
115kg * 7
wide grip chin ups
bw *
10
7
5
4
4sets tricep pushdowns 64kg * 6
3 sets bent over tricep extensions 59kg *6
2 sets db overhead onearm exts 10kg * 5
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Man I know exactly how u feel. I must have been going throuth the motions for the last 3 months. Partly because of injuries partly cause i lost motivation. Maybe you should take a week of review your goals and compeletly change your work out. thats what im going to do right now. It's no fun if your not challenging yourself. hope your shoulder gets better man.Originally posted by gav
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
Cool man, keep doing them and your shoulder will probably heal out. =)Originally posted by gav
legs yesterday
weight: 67-68kg
smith squats (attg)
60kg * 6
80kg * 4
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90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
leg exts (machine)
90kg * 8
90kg * 8
stiff leg deads
3 sets, 80kg * 6
calve raises
4 sets, 65kg * 8
i've started doing those towel things lifeforce; they're working pretty well straight after doing them, but my shoulder's still pretty fvcked.
would you recommend me doing deadlifts or pullups tomorrow if it's still sore? the injury doesn't affect my performance on the deads, but it's a little sore on the pullups.
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.