"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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- Thread starter gav
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i can actually do 8 * 110kg with the standing calf raisesOriginally posted by Lifeforce
Good job with the squats! But I don't get your calf raises, your seated raises should be alot stronger than your standing.
seated: can't push the weight up if it's above 50kg (i'm using the machine that has a rest above your quads and you push it up using your calves)
Weight: 69kg
Deads
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60kg * 6
100kg * 4
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110kg * 4
120kg * 2 NEW RECORD
125kg * 2 NEW RECORD
130kg * 1 NEW RECORD
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Wide grip chin ups
8reps
5reps
CG lat pulldowns
71kg * 8
71kg * 6
Bent over bb rows
55kg * 6
shrugs
90kg * 6
90kg * 6
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Weight: 69kg
DB Incline Bench
30kg * 5 NEW RECORD
30kg * 4
26kg * 6
BB Flat Bench
65kg * 5 NEW RECORD
65kg * 6 NEW RECORD
65kg * 6
DB Decline Bench
22kg * 6
22kg * 6
DB Flat Bench Flies
12kg * 10
12kg * 10
Cable Leg Raises
32kg * 15
32kg * 15
Ab crunch machine
57kg * 10
57kg * 10
Decline Twisting Situps
10kg * 10
Had to fit everything in today cuz i've got an exam tomorrow ffs
weight: 69kg
military press
47.5kg * 3 NEW RECORD!! broke the previous record by miles!
45kg * 3
42.5kg * 6
db shoulder press
26kg - couldn't get it up - could have if it was before the military presses
22kg * 5
22kg * 4
20kg * 6
db lateral raises
9kg * 7
9kg * 6
barbell curls
30kg * 6
35kg * 5 NEW RECORD (first time lifting these in ages)
35kg * 5
DB hammer curls
22kg * 6
22kg * 6
20kg * 6
cable overhead tricep extensions
59kg * 4 NEW RECORD
55kg * 6
55kg * 5
55kg * 4
db one arm overhead extensions
10kg * 6
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Weight: 69.5kg
Squats
90kg * 6
90kg * 6
95kg * 6
95kg * 6
97.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
Prone leg curls
69kg * 5 NEW RECORD
69kg * 4
Stiff Leg deads
60kg * 8
Seated calve raises
45kg * 8
45kg * 9
47.5kg * 8
52.5kg * 7
52.5kg * 8 NEW RECORD
Standing calve raises
90kg * 10
mid_au
Don Juan
Weight: 69.5kg
Deads
60kg * 6
90kg * 6
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115kg * 4
125kg * 3 NEW RECORD
132.5kg * 1 NEW MAX RECORD
137.5kg * 1 NEW MAX RECORD (dropped the weight on the first attempt, 5 seconds later, picked it off the ground for a full deadlift)
Wide grip chin ups
7reps
5reps
CG Machine Pulldowns
73.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
75.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
BO BB rows
50kg * 6
Shrugs
90kg * 6
This would have been a back and traps day, but whenever i do heavy shrugs, my left shoulder gets fvcked up, in fact, it was fvcked at the start of the workout anyways
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Lifeforce, arite man, my SLDLs hurt my knee joints - i could do 70kg * 6, like i used to, but i use this set just to stretch the muscles, not to build muscle as such
Mid_au, hows it goin bud, you just started up yeh? your lifts are improvin pretty fast the now btw, whats your weight? you bulkin up yeh? i'm just tryin to keep my bf% as low as possible while puttin on muscle, which means my weight won't go up that fast. i could overload on the carbs pretty easily but i'd rather have a sixpack than a gut
i will include exericises for this muscle at the end of my workouts, lets see if it gets better.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
mid_au
Don Juan
yeah gav i started not too long ago.. ive gained a couple of kilos so far (69-72kg). my strength seems to be increasing but my im not gaining as much weight as i thought i would!? i thought if you get stronger your muscles HAVE to grow more?
my lifts are doing ok but i have weak legs, its somehting i really need to work on. look out for a post in my journal tomorrow. (its chest, shoulders, triceps day)
cheers
those are big gains mate, even for beginner ones. once your body adapts to the weightlifting and the heavy eating, your gains should slow down (but that's not a certainty; look at double and lifeforce)
the highest i ever got was 73kg during a creatine bulk at the start of the year, but a lot of cardio brought me back down (to like 67kg not too long ago)
weight: 69.5kg
DB Incline bench
18kg * 6
22kg * 6
30kg - couldn't get it up, shoulder's still fvcked from last week
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28kg * 6
28kg * 5
28kg * 6
BB Flat Bench
67.5kg * 3 NEW RECORD
65kg * 4
65kg * 5
BB Decline Bench
60kg * 4 NEW RECORD
60kg * 4
DB Flies
10kg * 12
12kg * 8
Cable Leg Raises
32kg * 15
32kg * 15
Ab Crunch Machine
57kg * 10
57kg * 10
Incline Side Situps
10kg * 15
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.