"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i can actually do 8 * 110kg with the standing calf raisesOriginally posted by Lifeforce
Good job with the squats! But I don't get your calf raises, your seated raises should be alot stronger than your standing.
seated: can't push the weight up if it's above 50kg (i'm using the machine that has a rest above your quads and you push it up using your calves)
Weight: 69kg
Deads
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60kg * 6
100kg * 4
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110kg * 4
120kg * 2 NEW RECORD
125kg * 2 NEW RECORD
130kg * 1 NEW RECORD
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Wide grip chin ups
8reps
5reps
CG lat pulldowns
71kg * 8
71kg * 6
Bent over bb rows
55kg * 6
shrugs
90kg * 6
90kg * 6
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Weight: 69kg
DB Incline Bench
30kg * 5 NEW RECORD
30kg * 4
26kg * 6
BB Flat Bench
65kg * 5 NEW RECORD
65kg * 6 NEW RECORD
65kg * 6
DB Decline Bench
22kg * 6
22kg * 6
DB Flat Bench Flies
12kg * 10
12kg * 10
Cable Leg Raises
32kg * 15
32kg * 15
Ab crunch machine
57kg * 10
57kg * 10
Decline Twisting Situps
10kg * 10
Had to fit everything in today cuz i've got an exam tomorrow ffs
weight: 69kg
military press
47.5kg * 3 NEW RECORD!! broke the previous record by miles!
45kg * 3
42.5kg * 6
db shoulder press
26kg - couldn't get it up - could have if it was before the military presses
22kg * 5
22kg * 4
20kg * 6
db lateral raises
9kg * 7
9kg * 6
barbell curls
30kg * 6
35kg * 5 NEW RECORD (first time lifting these in ages)
35kg * 5
DB hammer curls
22kg * 6
22kg * 6
20kg * 6
cable overhead tricep extensions
59kg * 4 NEW RECORD
55kg * 6
55kg * 5
55kg * 4
db one arm overhead extensions
10kg * 6
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Weight: 69.5kg
Squats
90kg * 6
90kg * 6
95kg * 6
95kg * 6
97.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
Prone leg curls
69kg * 5 NEW RECORD
69kg * 4
Stiff Leg deads
60kg * 8
Seated calve raises
45kg * 8
45kg * 9
47.5kg * 8
52.5kg * 7
52.5kg * 8 NEW RECORD
Standing calve raises
90kg * 10
mid_au
Don Juan
Weight: 69.5kg
Deads
60kg * 6
90kg * 6
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115kg * 4
125kg * 3 NEW RECORD
132.5kg * 1 NEW MAX RECORD
137.5kg * 1 NEW MAX RECORD (dropped the weight on the first attempt, 5 seconds later, picked it off the ground for a full deadlift)
Wide grip chin ups
7reps
5reps
CG Machine Pulldowns
73.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
75.5kg * 6 NEW RECORD
BO BB rows
50kg * 6
Shrugs
90kg * 6
This would have been a back and traps day, but whenever i do heavy shrugs, my left shoulder gets fvcked up, in fact, it was fvcked at the start of the workout anyways
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Lifeforce, arite man, my SLDLs hurt my knee joints - i could do 70kg * 6, like i used to, but i use this set just to stretch the muscles, not to build muscle as such
Mid_au, hows it goin bud, you just started up yeh? your lifts are improvin pretty fast the now btw, whats your weight? you bulkin up yeh? i'm just tryin to keep my bf% as low as possible while puttin on muscle, which means my weight won't go up that fast. i could overload on the carbs pretty easily but i'd rather have a sixpack than a gut
i will include exericises for this muscle at the end of my workouts, lets see if it gets better.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
mid_au
Don Juan
yeah gav i started not too long ago.. ive gained a couple of kilos so far (69-72kg). my strength seems to be increasing but my im not gaining as much weight as i thought i would!? i thought if you get stronger your muscles HAVE to grow more?
my lifts are doing ok but i have weak legs, its somehting i really need to work on. look out for a post in my journal tomorrow. (its chest, shoulders, triceps day)
cheers
those are big gains mate, even for beginner ones. once your body adapts to the weightlifting and the heavy eating, your gains should slow down (but that's not a certainty; look at double and lifeforce)
the highest i ever got was 73kg during a creatine bulk at the start of the year, but a lot of cardio brought me back down (to like 67kg not too long ago)
weight: 69.5kg
DB Incline bench
18kg * 6
22kg * 6
30kg - couldn't get it up, shoulder's still fvcked from last week
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28kg * 6
28kg * 5
28kg * 6
BB Flat Bench
67.5kg * 3 NEW RECORD
65kg * 4
65kg * 5
BB Decline Bench
60kg * 4 NEW RECORD
60kg * 4
DB Flies
10kg * 12
12kg * 8
Cable Leg Raises
32kg * 15
32kg * 15
Ab Crunch Machine
57kg * 10
57kg * 10
Incline Side Situps
10kg * 15
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.