"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
today was a leg workout, weight 71.5kg
Squats
warmup
0kg * 10
15kg * 10
30kg * 8
40kg * 6
55kg * 3
65kg * 1
75kg * 8
80kg * 8
85kg * 8
Leg press machine
230kg * 8 - i was about to faint
190kg * 8
190kg * 8
leg curl
98kg * 6
98kg * 6 (the machine was digging into my shins)
horizontal leg curl
86kg * 6
86kg * 5
i feel really drained after that and i've got a headache too, but **** it cuz most folk don't escape from their comfortable little lives.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"About 36" around... they look rather small in the mirror, but I compared them to a nearby oak and we had the same lenght around." well he almost told me this before
i did a 111kg * 8 rep leg curl last week (end of page3). this week i was takin it easy
Deadlifts
warmup
20kg * 10
35kg * 8
50kg * 4
70kg * 4
90kg * 1
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90kg * 5
95kg * 5
100kg * 4 (weak forearms)
Pullups
front grip
6reps
5reps
reverse grip
7reps
4reps
Barbell Curl (ez bar - don't know how much these weigh - i assumed 10kg)
30kg * 7
30kg * 6
30kg * 5
Seated rows
72.5kg * 8
79kg * 8
lat pulldowns (wide grip)
52kg * 7
52kg * 5
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
weight: 72kg
chest and triceps
bb bench press
warmup
20kg * 10
40kg * 4
50kg * 2
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60kg * 5
60kg * 5
60kg * 4
Incline db bench
20kg * 7
20kg * 6
Decline bb bench
50kg * 8
55kg * 5
55kg * 5
DB flies
14kg * 6
14kg * 6
Close grip bench
40kg * 4 (arms are fvcked at this point)
Tri extensions
16kg * 8
16kg * 6
Cable Pushdowns
46kg * 8
59kg * 8
73kg * 8
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thanks Ben,
back biceps
deads
60KG - 15 reps
80KG - 10 reps
95KG - 4 reps
120KG - 2 reps
125kg 1 rep<<<<never knew I could go that heavy
dumbell curls
20k 7 reps standard (alternate arms)
20k 6 hammer (both arms together)
20k 4 concentration curls
pull ups
8
6
6
Ben do me a massive favour and write me out a deadlift routine for next week, and a bench routine. I 1 rep max on 100kg, but I had a spotter, I will be training alone.
3-4 weeks as well I hope I can get squating easily at 90-100kg. I need to get that squat stronger than my 100kg bench!"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.