Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm very new to the **** community, but even I can tell you that this is a very bad idea. Silk is a very bad material to tie people up with, because it has a tendency to slide along itself, and as a result, tighten. This results in knots that are very hard to undo without pulling out scissors, as well as the loops tightening arould whatever limbs you tied up, resulting in pinched nerves and cut off blood flow.Originally posted by Sir_Chancealot
For example, use your Tie to tie her hands behind her back.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I neva knew all ties were made of silkOriginally posted by nick012000
I'm very new to the **** community, but even I can tell you that this is a very bad idea. Silk is a very bad material to tie people up with, because it has a tendency to slide along itself, and as a result, tighten. This results in knots that are very hard to undo without pulling out scissors, as well as the loops tightening arould whatever limbs you tied up, resulting in pinched nerves and cut off blood flow.
I would have expected better from a guide entitled "Advanced sexual techniques.![]()
And I have to speculate as to whether you've had a tendency to pick up closeted submissives.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This, in my opinion, is the single most important thread on SS. Ignore it at your peril.rocco said:i think sir chance olots article is making sex overly complicated.
here's my alternative advice:
"just do it!"
there ya go, now i charge ya 5,000 dolla.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.