Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm very new to the **** community, but even I can tell you that this is a very bad idea. Silk is a very bad material to tie people up with, because it has a tendency to slide along itself, and as a result, tighten. This results in knots that are very hard to undo without pulling out scissors, as well as the loops tightening arould whatever limbs you tied up, resulting in pinched nerves and cut off blood flow.Originally posted by Sir_Chancealot
For example, use your Tie to tie her hands behind her back.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I neva knew all ties were made of silkOriginally posted by nick012000
I'm very new to the **** community, but even I can tell you that this is a very bad idea. Silk is a very bad material to tie people up with, because it has a tendency to slide along itself, and as a result, tighten. This results in knots that are very hard to undo without pulling out scissors, as well as the loops tightening arould whatever limbs you tied up, resulting in pinched nerves and cut off blood flow.
I would have expected better from a guide entitled "Advanced sexual techniques.![]()
And I have to speculate as to whether you've had a tendency to pick up closeted submissives.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This, in my opinion, is the single most important thread on SS. Ignore it at your peril.rocco said:i think sir chance olots article is making sex overly complicated.
here's my alternative advice:
"just do it!"
there ya go, now i charge ya 5,000 dolla.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.