You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Women who are NOt good for you will tell you exactly that thru their actions.mzilla2 said:I find I have to remind myself of these lately, gotta stick with the basics:
Women who are interested in you will make themselves available to you.
Attraction is not negotiated, learned or conditioned.
Any to add?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is that ever true. Some years ago, I applied for a job where the boss was a nice petite brunette, HB 7.5-8. I was all dressed up and displayed my best 'smooth and confident' facade. I knew she was really attracted to me, at first. i.e. stumbled over her words, flustered, acted like a 39ish school girl.STR8UP said:1) As long as a woman who is attracted to you looks at you and sees a MAN, she will remain attracted to you. As soon as she sees you as anything less, that attraction will be GONE. FOREVER.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
True to the core. And she will always play it like she only has it once every 6 months to a year. 3 words to that: Bull - F*ckin' - Sh*t.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
That is so damn true...jonwon said:Women actively pursue men, but in covert ways
Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
Oh how true. This is one thing I have trouble conveying to some of my male buddies. Some of the things they do in this regard makes me cringe. They have trouble grasping this.Rollo Tomassi said:You cannot negotiate desire. All the flowers, love songs, poetry and gifts you can muster pale in comparison to raw, spontaneous, chemical-driven desire.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed, but still its good re-framing and better then the alternative most guys seem to have of:Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
actually i'm going to throw out a different view on this (although i could easily be wrong in what im about to say).Mr.Positive said:I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.
I wish I could experience that. Sex, for men, is mostly about release, releasing sexual tension that builds up.
I must say this is a great post. This post belongs in the DJ bible.. Rollo I must say, you have said some things that were money. But this statement above and the spin plates theory are one of the best on sosuave. Keep up the good work.:yes:Rollo Tomassi said:All women have the potential to be sluts, you just have to be the right Man in the right circumstance to bring it out in them. The hot coed ƒucking the young buck she met only a half an hour earlier in the foam cannon party on spring break in Cancun is the same sweet girl who'll tell you she's just not comfortable enough to have sex with you after spooning with her for 4 hour
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.