You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Women who are NOt good for you will tell you exactly that thru their actions.mzilla2 said:I find I have to remind myself of these lately, gotta stick with the basics:
Women who are interested in you will make themselves available to you.
Attraction is not negotiated, learned or conditioned.
Any to add?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is that ever true. Some years ago, I applied for a job where the boss was a nice petite brunette, HB 7.5-8. I was all dressed up and displayed my best 'smooth and confident' facade. I knew she was really attracted to me, at first. i.e. stumbled over her words, flustered, acted like a 39ish school girl.STR8UP said:1) As long as a woman who is attracted to you looks at you and sees a MAN, she will remain attracted to you. As soon as she sees you as anything less, that attraction will be GONE. FOREVER.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
True to the core. And she will always play it like she only has it once every 6 months to a year. 3 words to that: Bull - F*ckin' - Sh*t.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
That is so damn true...jonwon said:Women actively pursue men, but in covert ways
Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
Oh how true. This is one thing I have trouble conveying to some of my male buddies. Some of the things they do in this regard makes me cringe. They have trouble grasping this.Rollo Tomassi said:You cannot negotiate desire. All the flowers, love songs, poetry and gifts you can muster pale in comparison to raw, spontaneous, chemical-driven desire.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Agreed, but still its good re-framing and better then the alternative most guys seem to have of:Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
actually i'm going to throw out a different view on this (although i could easily be wrong in what im about to say).Mr.Positive said:I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.
I wish I could experience that. Sex, for men, is mostly about release, releasing sexual tension that builds up.
I must say this is a great post. This post belongs in the DJ bible.. Rollo I must say, you have said some things that were money. But this statement above and the spin plates theory are one of the best on sosuave. Keep up the good work.:yes:Rollo Tomassi said:All women have the potential to be sluts, you just have to be the right Man in the right circumstance to bring it out in them. The hot coed ƒucking the young buck she met only a half an hour earlier in the foam cannon party on spring break in Cancun is the same sweet girl who'll tell you she's just not comfortable enough to have sex with you after spooning with her for 4 hour
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.