She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Women who are NOt good for you will tell you exactly that thru their actions.mzilla2 said:I find I have to remind myself of these lately, gotta stick with the basics:
Women who are interested in you will make themselves available to you.
Attraction is not negotiated, learned or conditioned.
Any to add?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Is that ever true. Some years ago, I applied for a job where the boss was a nice petite brunette, HB 7.5-8. I was all dressed up and displayed my best 'smooth and confident' facade. I knew she was really attracted to me, at first. i.e. stumbled over her words, flustered, acted like a 39ish school girl.STR8UP said:1) As long as a woman who is attracted to you looks at you and sees a MAN, she will remain attracted to you. As soon as she sees you as anything less, that attraction will be GONE. FOREVER.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
True to the core. And she will always play it like she only has it once every 6 months to a year. 3 words to that: Bull - F*ckin' - Sh*t.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
That is so damn true...jonwon said:Women actively pursue men, but in covert ways
Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.jonwon said:Women are very highly sexed, even more so then men
Oh how true. This is one thing I have trouble conveying to some of my male buddies. Some of the things they do in this regard makes me cringe. They have trouble grasping this.Rollo Tomassi said:You cannot negotiate desire. All the flowers, love songs, poetry and gifts you can muster pale in comparison to raw, spontaneous, chemical-driven desire.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Agreed, but still its good re-framing and better then the alternative most guys seem to have of:Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.Rollo Tomassi said:Sorry, not to thread-jack but,..I wont argue that women are more sexual than they'll ever admit, that's just part of their covert communication methodology; but it is a biological impossibility that women are more sexual than men. Men possess 17 times the amount of testosterone women do at any given time - so lets stop kidding ourselves. Catch a woman at the peak of her menstrual cycle and she's primed and ready to go; catch her at the bottom of the bell curve for that month and she'd rather curl up on the couch and watch Grey's Anatomy. Men are ready to go at a moments notice, that's just how we work.
actually i'm going to throw out a different view on this (although i could easily be wrong in what im about to say).Mr.Positive said:I actually think women enjoy sex more than men do though.
I wish I could experience that. Sex, for men, is mostly about release, releasing sexual tension that builds up.
I must say this is a great post. This post belongs in the DJ bible.. Rollo I must say, you have said some things that were money. But this statement above and the spin plates theory are one of the best on sosuave. Keep up the good work.:yes:Rollo Tomassi said:All women have the potential to be sluts, you just have to be the right Man in the right circumstance to bring it out in them. The hot coed ƒucking the young buck she met only a half an hour earlier in the foam cannon party on spring break in Cancun is the same sweet girl who'll tell you she's just not comfortable enough to have sex with you after spooning with her for 4 hour
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.