Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Yea, something like this has proubly been posted before but anyway...is it me or are shy girls extremely hard to get and give mixed signals.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're right about that... and let me tell you why; It's because they're shy.
 

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Takes a while for them to warm up to you. Take it slow and try to converse when possible, eventually they'll be calm around you.
 

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This hasnt worked out for me yet(they never seem to want to go anywhere cept school) but you could ask her out on a "date" to the cafetria or something. They seem to warm up a bit if you send sms/IM but thats probably why it's not working for me lol.
 

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so ****y and funny..even if its light is out of the question with an extremely shy girl?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd use light C&F. If you put it on too heavily they'll probably be scared off..shy girls suck. Heh.
 

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Yeah...but I'm curious how many of them are really sexual beasts waiting to be unleashed. I dunno. Maybe that kinda **** just happens in movies...
 

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It turns out that the girl i'm talking about is too shy to even talk ta me through frekin aim. I mean give me a break, if your gonna smile and stare at a guy and make him become all attracted and be all shy when he decides he likes you, crazy.
 

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become friends with them for like a week then ask for a number. maybe that will work.
 

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jackie_legs said:
become friends with them for like a week then ask for a number. maybe that will work.
Naaaaw brom, dont friend em, always stay on the edge,,, that way youre unusual and she cant catorgorise you

But Jakie, it will work for gettin a number, ill give you tht
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Muphaser said:
always stay on the edge,,, that way youre unusual and she cant catorgorise you
This is exactly what i've been doing without realizing, but the thing is, it feels impossible to get this girl. She is dead shy, actually afraid of guys and never had a bf. I have no idea what she thinks of me, alough she smiled a lot before, but still stares at me, but if I try to talk to her she acts shy and b!tc#y.
 

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Try to just make her feel safe and comfortable without being too "friend zone"ish
 

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Well you could try playing soem kind of game with her. Allways a good bonding tatic, Though unless you'r both into trading card game your options will be somewhat limited (either that or both of you have the same handheld).
 
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DrBeard was really shy till I told him it's okay to cup his balls whenever I spanked his bottom. :rockon:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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