kingkong98
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Every girl i've ever dated ends up asking me this and wont drop the subject until I tell them. How can I get out of this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Should you ever tell a girl how many people youve slept with?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
growing a backbone will help you with that. I've never had a girl ask me that before. If you don't want to respond, don't. Make a joke, ask her how many she's been and keep grilling her about it until she gets upset (really don't do that I'm kidding), or just ignore it...
katatonia said:
when I was seeing this HB8.5, I really was a virgin. So I couldnt use that one haha. After we had sex the first or second time, she asked me the question. I tried ignoring it, deflecting it, not giving her a straight answer. It was evident that she was not upset about it, and understandably so. I mean why wont this guy just tell me, it must be a big number. I mean i could have lied, but eventually I just told her 0 until 20 min ago or whatever. She didn't believe me, so I told her to believe whatever she wants. After that it was cool.
The "I lost count at 500" is a good one I think.
Smartone84
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I never give a straight answer because in all real honesty, its not a subject you should be talking about. I've used joke lines such as "i'm saving myself for marriage" or as said earlier "Oh i dont know, I lost count when I turned 20 I think". . . and before you even get into that you can say "ladies first", making her answer first
if she CONTINUES to get on you over and over (which is unlikely), then you can tell her the truth with a straight face and confident look, and then say "you're turn"
if she CONTINUES to get on you over and over (which is unlikely), then you can tell her the truth with a straight face and confident look, and then say "you're turn"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sodbuster
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Say 20 1/2. When she asks 1/2? tell her you aren't sure how to count the midget
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LOL!!!! That is really good. I am going to use that one.sodbuster said:
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OP, you need to use witticisms like this one.sodbuster said:
Case closed.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.