"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should u ignore ex dater?

bob2007

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Girl went out with me a month only 3 dates, no kiss. I walked away. She got mad, sent nasty text.

I see her in our social , acquaintance group, people know, invite me to play vball. I ignore her, I never play on same game.

I'm over it, I understand she came from daddy problems.

Should I initiate contact / acknowledge her? Or just ignore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If there's anything there, she will let you know.

I wouldn't stress over it. Maybe she will give you second chance, maybe not. Too many other chicks out there to make a "not sure" any main priority.
Once bitten and unresolved, second time shy.
 

bob2007

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Mauser96 said:
You have to decide if YOU want to give HER a second chance.

Let's adopt more of THIS mindset

OP, to your question - do nothing. Treat her politely, the same as you would treat anyone else. SHE is the one who sent the nasty text. SHE is the one who has amends to make

I won't go out with this girl ever again.

I've been ignoring her for the most part.
I was just asking if I should say hi like I would most people.
But to be honest I don't even say hi to anyone in that vball group lol.
 

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IF you don't want to say Hi to anyone in that group, why the he11 are you in it? Never mind the GIRL, why are you hanging around people who aren't worth a "hello"?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's a volleyball group.

I play vball.
 

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Dear Bob,
You don't say Hello to people in a Social Group?....Americans used to be such outgoing People...Crikey I even say G'day to Dogs I see tied up at my local shops...I would ask Sodbuster who would seem to come from A Rural Anglo derived community,is that how people in your town behave?
 
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