The way I framed it was (which is true), im going for this walk anyway, alone or not alone.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I try to reschedule later or just drop her?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
EyeBRollin
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Never bring up rescheduling. That is HER job when she breaks that date. Delete this broad.
KindredSpiritzz
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if you're just looking for something casual then wait a few days to see if she re engages with you, if she doesnt send her a text again and ask when shes available to go out. If she evades again then next her. We put way to much time and effort into finding a girl that will actually respond to messages or engage with us on these dating sites to be tossing them away the moment it doesnt go our way. With single moms sh*t happens, gotta roll with it if you're just looking for some quick hitters, specially in the beginning.
Yes I agree, not going to reschedule anything now
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Just as an update, this girl actually agreed to come over and have dinner with me last monday, and although it was brief because she had to go home early due to the kid, we had a good time and made out. Yesterday I tried to setup a new date for saturday, and after 24h of not replying to me she wrote: "Hi Juanto, sorry for not replying to you but I was pondering what to answer you. I dont want to mislead you and I think at this point I am not ready for a relationship. I enjoyed being with you but I think its impportant to be honest and I wanted you to know this".
Whats interesting is that I never ever told her about wanting a "relationship", if anything I indicated the opposite.
Your thoughts on this? I know its very likely dead in the water now, just wanted some feedback.
Thank you
Whats interesting is that I never ever told her about wanting a "relationship", if anything I indicated the opposite.
Your thoughts on this? I know its very likely dead in the water now, just wanted some feedback.
Thank you
Thats how it seems to me too
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Just say "Thanks for the heads up. Let me know if you change your mind." and then nothing else. If she reaches out again at some point, invite her over and try to bang her again.
EyeBRollin
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Delete.
Move on.
Move on.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Get a little arrogant with her. Tell her that you both know that there is attraction between you two and tell her that of you want to keep things casual that she knows how to find you. You then go ghost and never reach out. She may reach out to you again.
This is subtle but very important. Usually on the first date or two especially, any kind of time constraint usually is a negative and will often work against you right from the start.
When it comes to single mothers, I will often have very low investment(coffee date nearby but no dinner) or reschedule to a day when she doesn't have kid constraints. Even if you manage to get them over to your place, if you just started seeing each other, it's hard for her to get really comfortable having that time constraint looming over her head.
That's just been from my experience.
good points
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You should just delete this biatch's number.Just as an update to this story, on thursday night I reached out to her asking if her kid was feeling better, to which she replied very quickly saying he was feeling better although not fully recovered. We had some small back and forth and then I invited her for a walk on saturday (today) since the weather would be good (we are still under full lockdown here, everything is closed). She asked me to confirm the next day just to make sure the kid wouldnt need her. Then yesterday (Friday) we texted a bit during the day and in the evening she confirmed with me the date and time of it.
Now its Saturday, and she just texted me saying she doesnt feel like leaving home and will probably take a nap this afternoon...And, she hopes I wont get upset about it
Wont even reply.
thats what I did
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.