The way I framed it was (which is true), im going for this walk anyway, alone or not alone.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Should I try to reschedule later or just drop her?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
EyeBRollin
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Never bring up rescheduling. That is HER job when she breaks that date. Delete this broad.
KindredSpiritzz
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if you're just looking for something casual then wait a few days to see if she re engages with you, if she doesnt send her a text again and ask when shes available to go out. If she evades again then next her. We put way to much time and effort into finding a girl that will actually respond to messages or engage with us on these dating sites to be tossing them away the moment it doesnt go our way. With single moms sh*t happens, gotta roll with it if you're just looking for some quick hitters, specially in the beginning.
Yes I agree, not going to reschedule anything now
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Just as an update, this girl actually agreed to come over and have dinner with me last monday, and although it was brief because she had to go home early due to the kid, we had a good time and made out. Yesterday I tried to setup a new date for saturday, and after 24h of not replying to me she wrote: "Hi Juanto, sorry for not replying to you but I was pondering what to answer you. I dont want to mislead you and I think at this point I am not ready for a relationship. I enjoyed being with you but I think its impportant to be honest and I wanted you to know this".
Whats interesting is that I never ever told her about wanting a "relationship", if anything I indicated the opposite.
Your thoughts on this? I know its very likely dead in the water now, just wanted some feedback.
Thank you
Whats interesting is that I never ever told her about wanting a "relationship", if anything I indicated the opposite.
Your thoughts on this? I know its very likely dead in the water now, just wanted some feedback.
Thank you
Thats how it seems to me too
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Just say "Thanks for the heads up. Let me know if you change your mind." and then nothing else. If she reaches out again at some point, invite her over and try to bang her again.
EyeBRollin
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Delete.
Move on.
Move on.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Get a little arrogant with her. Tell her that you both know that there is attraction between you two and tell her that of you want to keep things casual that she knows how to find you. You then go ghost and never reach out. She may reach out to you again.
This is subtle but very important. Usually on the first date or two especially, any kind of time constraint usually is a negative and will often work against you right from the start.
When it comes to single mothers, I will often have very low investment(coffee date nearby but no dinner) or reschedule to a day when she doesn't have kid constraints. Even if you manage to get them over to your place, if you just started seeing each other, it's hard for her to get really comfortable having that time constraint looming over her head.
That's just been from my experience.
good points
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You should just delete this biatch's number.Just as an update to this story, on thursday night I reached out to her asking if her kid was feeling better, to which she replied very quickly saying he was feeling better although not fully recovered. We had some small back and forth and then I invited her for a walk on saturday (today) since the weather would be good (we are still under full lockdown here, everything is closed). She asked me to confirm the next day just to make sure the kid wouldnt need her. Then yesterday (Friday) we texted a bit during the day and in the evening she confirmed with me the date and time of it.
Now its Saturday, and she just texted me saying she doesnt feel like leaving home and will probably take a nap this afternoon...And, she hopes I wont get upset about it
Wont even reply.
thats what I did
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