"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I be pissed with my girl? How or should i express it?

shark

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I went away for about 3 or 4 nights. I expect her, as usually to either message me via cell phone or text message. However, her cell phone was messed up and I couldnt contact her if i wanted. She didn't contact me once and i got back like 5 hours ago. She knew i was getting back and i was online and so was she. She put a away message on and she HAD to see me online and home and she didn't call.

Am i overthinking this? I still HAVEN'T spoken to her. I'm no AFC, but not a total DJ. Things were going fine before, whats up? How do i express my disapproval of this b.s.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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shark

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do i go along the lines of just asking...like what the ****? Or do i just act curious and try and make it seem like I don't really care and i'm rather just curious?
 

shark

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i spoke to her, she called. She kinda said jokingly "nice of you to call me" and i said me? How was i supposed to call you..you should've called me and she just laughped. I said no seriously..you should've called and she was like "you were on vacation why would you wanna hear or talk to me". What does this mean? How do i respond? Err...

need help!
 

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Reading too much into it. Doesn't seem to be any problem here at all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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She's testing you.....

Stop being so clingy... it's no big deal. So she didn't call. You could have messaged her and said something like,

"hey babe.. i know your phone's not workin' so just letting you know I'm home. call me later, I gotta unpack. I missed ya :) "


Or something like that.


you get the picture....
 

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Originally posted by shark
i spoke to her, she called. She kinda said jokingly "nice of you to call me" and i said me? How was i supposed to call you..you should've called me and she just laughped. I said no seriously..you should've called and she was like "you were on vacation why would you wanna hear or talk to me". What does this mean? How do i respond? Err...

need help!
Ugh. Just drop it. You messed this up bad enough already.
 
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