"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I be pissed with my girl? How or should i express it?

shark

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I went away for about 3 or 4 nights. I expect her, as usually to either message me via cell phone or text message. However, her cell phone was messed up and I couldnt contact her if i wanted. She didn't contact me once and i got back like 5 hours ago. She knew i was getting back and i was online and so was she. She put a away message on and she HAD to see me online and home and she didn't call.

Am i overthinking this? I still HAVEN'T spoken to her. I'm no AFC, but not a total DJ. Things were going fine before, whats up? How do i express my disapproval of this b.s.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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shark

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do i go along the lines of just asking...like what the ****? Or do i just act curious and try and make it seem like I don't really care and i'm rather just curious?
 

shark

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i spoke to her, she called. She kinda said jokingly "nice of you to call me" and i said me? How was i supposed to call you..you should've called me and she just laughped. I said no seriously..you should've called and she was like "you were on vacation why would you wanna hear or talk to me". What does this mean? How do i respond? Err...

need help!
 

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Reading too much into it. Doesn't seem to be any problem here at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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She's testing you.....

Stop being so clingy... it's no big deal. So she didn't call. You could have messaged her and said something like,

"hey babe.. i know your phone's not workin' so just letting you know I'm home. call me later, I gotta unpack. I missed ya :) "


Or something like that.


you get the picture....
 

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Originally posted by shark
i spoke to her, she called. She kinda said jokingly "nice of you to call me" and i said me? How was i supposed to call you..you should've called me and she just laughped. I said no seriously..you should've called and she was like "you were on vacation why would you wanna hear or talk to me". What does this mean? How do i respond? Err...

need help!
Ugh. Just drop it. You messed this up bad enough already.
 
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