Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dude, I hear ya. 5’9” here and I’ve never had a complaint after hooking up. Massively shorter chicks. Massively taller chicks. It literally doesn’t matter if you hold frame.I'm the same height and I've had no issues. I dunno...women reject guys for any number of reasons, guys worry way too much about things oit of their control.
Just own it. Yeah I'm 5'8" but I fvck like a champ and its the best d!ck they'll ever get in their life. I know it and I act like it when they are around me and suddenly they aren't worried too much about my height.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Heightism has been a thing for over a generation.At a fraction under 6'2" I was top 5 tallest in my year at school, but as I have been saying I see more and more girls in the 18-20 range who are creeping very close to my height, which 10 years ago was almost unheard of.
I went into a bakery the other day to get some lunch, there was 4-5 school kids in their in their school uniforms, and every one of them was taller than me, the closest to my height was a good bit taller than me, two of them must have been 6'6" as they were a lot taller than me. Strange feeling being 6'2" and in a room full of 16-17 year olds who are all taller.
Yeah, the battle for status and validation through group thinking is probably the biggest force that influence womens behaviour.The struggle even attractive shorter guys are going to have in the game is not so much keeping the interest of the women you're dating but battling against the fact that she doesn't get status from dating you from her friends. I'm just about outright heard this told to me when I was being devalued by a couple women, basically they would mention how their friends don't get why she's dating me. The same women during the idealization phase would crawl through glass to get one date with me too, super high interest.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.