What do you think I should do if I know this girl who is always saying stuff like, "I have a serious question..." and then when I ask what it is she says, "Umm.. never mind... maybe later" Also saying stuff like "I don't know and you don't know and I..." and she doesn't continue when I ask her. She wants to tell me something but I think she is afraid or something. How do I get it out of her without being too pushy?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She's afraid to tell me something...
- Thread starter stickboy
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You make a move if you want to date her. Plain and simple. Isolate her, and then pull some moves...kino to kiss. You'll push her ass off the fence so fast, there'll be no grass to catch her. You'll find out very quickly whether she's interested or not, and you can stop wasting your time over-analyzing this. 
Listen, either your in or your out, so why not find out?
Listen, either your in or your out, so why not find out?
cave dweller
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bad........
stickboy,
She has done some 'bad shvt' in her past. (and you are not going to like what you hear).
(maybe she took on 4 at one time)
I am telling you that you don't want to hear it.......
cave dweller
stickboy,
She has done some 'bad shvt' in her past. (and you are not going to like what you hear).
(maybe she took on 4 at one time)
I am telling you that you don't want to hear it.......
cave dweller
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well, then you need to make it obvious. If you already go out together if you're good friends, then you just have to start getting physical with her. Read up on Kino in the bible, and apply that when you two are alone. She'll tell you if she's not interested (though she probably won't use her mouth for this).
I'm fairly sure that most guys here will tell you that, it doesn't matter the circumstances if you want to have a chance with a girl, you have to make a deliberate, obvious "move" on her.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
When girls that I'm dating start pulling "sneaky" crap like this and act all sly/child like, I immediately start turning my head at the next available girl I can date.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.