"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's afraid to tell me something...

stickboy

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What do you think I should do if I know this girl who is always saying stuff like, "I have a serious question..." and then when I ask what it is she says, "Umm.. never mind... maybe later" Also saying stuff like "I don't know and you don't know and I..." and she doesn't continue when I ask her. She wants to tell me something but I think she is afraid or something. How do I get it out of her without being too pushy?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nishbuk

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You make a move if you want to date her. Plain and simple. Isolate her, and then pull some moves...kino to kiss. You'll push her ass off the fence so fast, there'll be no grass to catch her. You'll find out very quickly whether she's interested or not, and you can stop wasting your time over-analyzing this. :p

Listen, either your in or your out, so why not find out?
 

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bad........

stickboy,

She has done some 'bad shvt' in her past. (and you are not going to like what you hear).

(maybe she took on 4 at one time)

I am telling you that you don't want to hear it.......

cave dweller
 

nishbuk

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Oh my bad. I was under the impression that she wasn't dating you yet. :p
 

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we are already really good friends, so asking her on a date is a little bit complicated as we already go out whenever she's in town or I'm up where she lives.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nishbuk

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Originally posted by stickboy
You were correct.
Well, then you need to make it obvious. If you already go out together if you're good friends, then you just have to start getting physical with her. Read up on Kino in the bible, and apply that when you two are alone. She'll tell you if she's not interested (though she probably won't use her mouth for this).

I'm fairly sure that most guys here will tell you that, it doesn't matter the circumstances if you want to have a chance with a girl, you have to make a deliberate, obvious "move" on her.
 

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nevermind...i thought you guys were dating. I misread your post. I agree with what the poster had to say above.
 

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When girls that I'm dating start pulling "sneaky" crap like this and act all sly/child like, I immediately start turning my head at the next available girl I can date.
 

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God, I haven't been here in a while an am starting to see why.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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