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Im not saying I disagree. I think its about where each person draws the line. I could cold approach a hot girl, get her number, never text her, tell my gf all about it and she would laugh it off and/or she would get jealous but in a cute way, not a bad way.
Yup I agree brotha.
 

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ven the best girls have some conversations in her social media that would piss you off. Its not sexual stuff but just attention stuff.
I actually believe this is not the case for men who tolerate none of this. I would leave a woman just from one stupid SM conversation because it’s more than attention mongering brewing under the surface in many cases.

Toleration of it doesn’t surprise me. So many men these days are so desperate that they’ll take just about any treatment.
 

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I actually believe this is not the case for men who tolerate none of this. I would leave a woman just from one stupid SM conversation because it’s more than attention mongering brewing under the surface in many cases.

Toleration of it doesn’t surprise me. So many men these days are so desperate that they’ll take just about any treatment.
Bro I totally understand what you are saying. I am right there with you. Lets look at the practical side of this. Is it practical to monitor her texts and social media messages?

If you have a hot girl there will always be some idiot trying to shoot their shot. Are we going to dump every girl who entertains another guy on social media ( these are dudes she will never fyck). We would have to do this for 25 yrs or more.

If you want a girl with no social media then that eliminates 90% of the hot female population.

Some stuff we just gotta ignore. If she physically cheats then its over though.

Hey I may be too lackidasical idk.

My girl allows me to go through her phone. I dont ever take the offer though. She is still in love with me so she wont really entertain another guy at this point. What will she do at 5 yrs down the road? Or 10 years?

I rather not worry about it too much. We attract what we fear sometimes ya know.
 

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We would have to do this for 25 yrs or more.
That’s an option.

I don’t go through my wife’s phone, as I think that’s weird. But if she ever suspected something of me, I’d say, sure, go check. I have nothing to hide.
If you want a girl with no social media then that eliminates 90% of the hot female population.
If I were single, then I’d seek the remaining 10% or ordinary (not hot) women, if that’s the case.

As I’ve been posting, the female race has men by the balls these days, something that likely never happened before in all of history the world over.
 

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That’s an option.

I don’t go through my wife’s phone, as I think that’s weird. But if she ever suspected something of me, I’d say, sure, go check. I have nothing to hide.

If I were single, then I’d seek the remaining 10% or ordinary (not hot) women, if that’s the case.

As I’ve been posting, the female race has men by the balls these days, something that likely never happened before in all of history the world over.
Yeh man you are blessed to have a good wife. Was she raised in the USA or in a more traditional country ( nothing too specific becuz of privacy reasons).

I ask because the GenZ girls in the USA will never give up social media. They cant. Its too addictive. Its like porn for men.
 

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Group 1:

They have a live and let live attitude. They are resigned to the fact that all girls have an inner hoe. As long as they dont see it then they are cool. These men are also either cheating or on the verge of cheating themselves. Their gfs are often in a state of competition anxiety with other women.

Group 2:

These guys attempt to enforce rules and regulations on their females. We calling it putting the metaphorical " foot on her neck". They make her delete her social media. They also mate guard heavily.
I disagree that all women will cheat on you. I would say, rather, that all women have the potential to cheat on you.

I also think there is a space in between Group 1 and Group 2. I wouldn't think of telling my girlfriend to delete her social media, nor would I characterize all boundary setting as keeping your "foot on her neck". It's simply not tolerating certain reckless or disrespectful behavior.
 

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Yeh man you are blessed to have a good wife. Was she raised in the USA or in a more traditional country ( nothing too specific becuz of privacy reasons).

I ask because the GenZ girls in the USA will never give up social media. They cant. Its too addictive. Its like porn for men.
Thanks.

Yes, US. But she has a normal mindset.
 

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I disagree that all women will cheat on you. I would say, rather, that all women have the potential to cheat on you.

I also think there is a space in between Group 1 and Group 2. I wouldn't think of telling my girlfriend to delete her social media, nor would I characterize all boundary setting as keeping your "foot on her neck". It's simply not tolerating certain reckless or disrespectful behavior.
True. Balance is everything. Balance between one and two.
 

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I've had some new thoughts on this, as this is actually a topic I've thought about a lot over the years.

I'm at the point now, where I consider a woman in a committed relationship to be cheating if she acts like she's single. In fact, if she acts like she's "single" all the time, even if she doesn't actually sleep with another man, it's still a disgusting behavior that is probably worse than actually hooking up with another man in a vacuum. Almost all women will do this by default. This is where you absolutely need to set boundaries and expectations. If she doesn't respect the boundaries, end it! It's really that simple. It's not about "mate guarding" or "jealousy" or "insecurity" it's about respect, and this is a nuanced take. It's not that you should care about potentially losing her to another man, rather you should care how she acts, because acting single is massively disrespectful in and of itself, regardless of the end result. If I was dating a girl who wanted to go out to clubs with her single hoe friends all the time, I wouldn't actually give two shvts if she fvcked a man, i'd care about the utter lack of respect and empathy and the sheer audacity for her to think that's acceptable behavior in a commited relationship.

Lots of guys still have this passive attitude where they insist on indifference, but this is the same attitude that the reddit simps have, ie NOT setting boundaries, which is actually based on insecurity over fear of losing her. The point is, you shouldn't ever worry or care if she is sleeping with other man since you cannot control that, but you should absolutely care how she acts around men in general, because you can and should control this with boundaries. This is where you must lay the hammer down while simultaneously showing indifference to how she reacts to it - your ability to walk should be based on indifference of the outcome, not the actual behaviors the lead to the outcome. Disliking the idea of your girl putting herself in environments where her inhibition is lowered and she's surrounded by men who wanna smash her isn't a trust issue - anyone in her shoes could slip up even if she had no real intention of cheating (which is usually what they say, oh I was drunk and one thing led to another, zero accountability). The mere fact that she'd even put herself in high risk situations in the first place is a sign you should not take her seriously, plain and simple.
 
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The point is, you shouldn't ever worry or care if she is sleeping with other man since you cannot control that, but you should absolutely care how she acts around men in general, because you can and should control this with boundaries.
Screwing a man is a behavior. This is incongruent. So if she acts like she is taken, she can screw other men. But it she acts single, she’s disrespectful.

Is screwing other men alright so long as she acts modest? Like, for example, she wears a ring to work, tells a male co-worker, “I’m taken, but we can get it on. I respect my man, so all is well. Meet me at the motel after you get off of work. I’ll call hubby to let him know why I’ll be home late.” Is that alright?

A wife comes home, tells hubby, “I’m pregnant. But the kid’s not yours. But look, I don’t act single. I respect you.”
 

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100000% I totally agree. This is what I try to communicate in my posts. A lot of men dont want to accept this fact. Monogamy will never work. No attractive woman in America is totally monogamous even when she is with you. She will either cheat and stay with you or she will check out and cheat before she "checks out".
So you are fishing for assertive arguments which will confirm your beliefs. F.ck NO!!
Women which are unabable for monogamy are cheap, pathetic individuals who dont deserve anything good in in life. *** dumpsters, that's it, end of story.
 

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So you are fishing for assertive arguments which will confirm your beliefs. F.ck NO!!
Women which are unabable for monogamy are cheap, pathetic individuals who dont deserve anything good in in life. *** dumpsters, that's it, end of story.
Imagine things are so bad these days men now tolerate cheating. Brutal!
 

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So you are fishing for assertive arguments which will confirm your beliefs. F.ck NO!!
Women which are unabable for monogamy are cheap, pathetic individuals who dont deserve anything good in in life. *** dumpsters, that's it, end of story.
Relax man. Im saying that most young women get an attention fix from other guys in small ways. This does not mean sexually.

No one is 100% monogamous. The best you can hope for is that for 40 yrs she stays in love with you and never physically cheats. If she has social media ( 99.9% of cute girls do) she will be getting some sort of attention fix however small from other dudes.

Same with men. You watch porn when you are in a relationship right? You check out other women very subtley when you are in a realtionship. So you are not 100% monogamous. I tell women the best that they can hope for is your man stays loyal and in love with you for 40 yrs. Let the small
stuff slide.

A lot of you weirdos want your wife to work. Are you that stupid to think that while at work for 40 yrs she aint gonna have a little work husband. If she dont then she is ugly.

Some stuff you just gotta charge to the game.

The totally perfect, hot, submissive, 100% monogamous does not exist. Until you find that girl please chill.

Aisha Curry explained this well. Even though she is loyal to Steph she still misses being wanted by other men. You virgins are delusional and dont want to accept female nature. Attention is their currency. No one is perfect.
 

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Btw I have a smoking hot friend who is a physician. She is married now. Very faithful. Never was a hoe. I went to school with her. She comes from a very traditional South Asian background. We talk once in a while via text.

When the Aisha Curry statement came out she texted me saying she had the same feelings. She related. She would never cheat and is in love with her man but on some level she missed guys shooting their shot.

Its female nature you can accept it or not. Personally I dont have a problem with it. As long as its just validation and they dont go any further I dont care.

I find it flattering when a guy trys to hit on my girl and she turns him down. Of course I do get angry if its direspectful for she eggs it on. I know thats part of the game man.
 

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Screwing a man is a behavior. This is incongruent. So if she acts like she is taken, she can screw other men. But it she acts single, she’s disrespectful

Is screwing other men alright so long as she acts modest? Like, for example, she wears a ring to work, tells a male co-worker, “I’m taken, but we can get it on. I respect my man, so all is well. Meet me at the motel after you get off of work. I’ll call hubby to let him know why I’ll be home late.” Is that alright?

A wife comes home, tells hubby, “I’m pregnant. But the kid’s not yours. But look, I don’t act single. I respect you.”
When did I ever say it's okay for her to screw other men? My point was, the battle starts long before that. If you reach the point where she's actively cheating, you fvcked up from the beginning and the cheating was just the final nail in the coffin. If you examine any relationship where a man asks "why did my wife suddenly cheat!?" I bet in the majority of cases you could point to several signs along the way, ie blatant disrespect from her and spineless passivity from him. Point being, you should have already caught it before it happens and responded accordingly. Once you reach the point where they cheat, it was already a wrap before she even did the act.
 

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When did I ever say it's okay for her to screw other men? My point was, the battle starts long before that. If you reach the point where she's actively cheating, you fvcked up from the beginning and the cheating was just the final nail in the coffin. If you examine any relationship where a man asks "why did my wife suddenly cheat!?" I bet in the majority of cases you could point to several signs along the way, ie blatant disrespect from her and spineless passivity from him. Point being, you should have already caught it before it happens and responded accordingly. Once you reach the point where they cheat, it was already a wrap before she even did the act.
Girls have told me they cheat when they lose faith in the mans leadership ability. Basically when they lose respect for the guy.
When they dont see a future anymore.
 

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My post is not to condone physical cheating. I am just saying that we live in a hyperconnected world. As one lawyer said "a smartphone is an infidelity device in your hand".

Instead of constantly worrying its probably better just to address the issue when you see it. Also dont go through her phone. Your feelings will be hurt.

Are there 1% of girls who dont have this issue yes. Good luck getting them.
 
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