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Given enough correct circumstances I think the vast majority of men and women will be capable of cheating

You can't really claim ownership of another persons mind or body its a flawed ideology and concept that has repeatedly failed billions of times

its more difficult for men to accept because they want to assert ownership over their woman and when she strays it damages his masculinity

For a woman her man sleeping with another woman although painful deep down she is aroused as she knows she has a man another woman wants and women are highly competitive

But true masculinity is being resilient and able to cope with anything , so if she is sleeping with other men you either accept it and sleep with other women too or you put her in the bin and carry on with your life

there isnt really any middle ground its one or the other

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Can two people really respect each other enough too not want anyone else for a sustained period of time ?

yes but its very rare and of course there are constant pressures from wider socitey and now social media to contend with

For me its very much a mutual exchange if I see a woman making effort too respect me I will respect her

like I said very rare

be happy in your own company kings
 

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Given enough correct circumstances I think the vast majority of men and women will be capable of cheating

You can't really claim ownership of another persons mind or body its a flawed ideology and concept that has repeatedly failed billions of times

its more difficult for men to accept because they want to assert ownership over their woman and when she strays it damages his masculinity

For a woman her man sleeping with another woman although painful deep down she is aroused as she knows she has a man another woman wants and women are highly competitive

But true masculinity is being resilient and able to cope with anything , so if she is sleeping with other men you either accept it and sleep with other women too or you put her in the bin and carry on with your life

there isnt really any middle ground its one or the other

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Can two people really respect each other enough too not want anyone else for a sustained period of time ?

yes but its very rare and of course there are constant pressures from wider socitey and now social media to contend with

For me its very much a mutual exchange if I see a woman making effort too respect me I will respect her

like I said very rare

be happy in your own company kings
Big facts. Well put.
 

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"But true masculinity is being resilient and able to cope with anything..."

Be the real life version of what's described between 14:50-15:00

 

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My ex who was in a relationship asked me over last week to drop off one of her books.
After an hour of sexual tension she led me upstairs and I f’d her brains out. Stayed the night and left the next day.

Asked her later if she felt bad given she was in a relationship. She said ‘no, I felt I was exactly where I wanted to be’. Now she wants to have a ‘talk’. Think I may have alpha widowed her to a certain extent.

I noticed one of the girls I am currently dating who wants to ‘be friends first before having s*x’ was coincidentally active on the same dating site I met her on last night. And she wasn’t checking my profile out either (did a quick check).

A small sample size admittedly but it signifies at least to me that women generally always have a backup option(s) and will act on their emotions with these whether this is lust, loneliness, a need for validation external to their existing relationship etc. If that includes cheating on their existing partner then they will do it without hesitation and rationalise it.
 

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A small sample size admittedly but it signifies at least to me that women generally always have a backup option(s) and will act on their emotions with these whether this is lust, loneliness, a need for validation external to their existing relationship etc. If that includes cheating on their existing partner then they will do it without hesitation and rationalise it.
I appreciate your hypothesis but this is far from being a fact. One woman cheated and you helped her do it.

The other woman whom is not even sleeping with you has a social profile and is still looking.

Instead of pointing outward, is it possible the common denominator is something on your end?
 

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My ex who was in a relationship asked me over last week to drop off one of her books.
After an hour of sexual tension she led me upstairs and I f’d her brains out. Stayed the night and left the next day.

Asked her later if she felt bad given she was in a relationship. She said ‘no, I felt I was exactly where I wanted to be’. Now she wants to have a ‘talk’. Think I may have alpha widowed her to a certain extent.

I noticed one of the girls I am currently dating who wants to ‘be friends first before having s*x’ was coincidentally active on the same dating site I met her on last night. And she wasn’t checking my profile out either (did a quick check).

A small sample size admittedly but it signifies at least to me that women generally always have a backup option(s) and will act on their emotions with these whether this is lust, loneliness, a need for validation external to their existing relationship etc. If that includes cheating on their existing partner then they will do it without hesitation and rationalise it.
You potentially alpha widowed your ex. If that is the case she will cheat on every man with you. She will justify it because to her you are the " special one" that she is supposed to be with.

The other girl has already been alpha widowed. This is why she is still shopping for other men online. No matter who she gets it will virtually never be enough. Some guy has to beat the high score of her alpha widow ( shout out to Desvidona for that high score term). This is very difficult to do.
 

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Its really not worth being with a woman unless you are her high score. You will know it too. It will be obvious.

Most of this rampant cheating comes from women not being with the man that broke her brain.

Biblically and spiritually you are supposed to marry the girl if you " broke her brain". You break you buy! It messes up society throwing them back into the dating pool.

I sincerly regret doing that but I was younger and less wise.
 

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Women cheat on us, we cheat on them.... Like car accidents, minor and diasterous, this s-it happens, and probably always will. The fact that humans aren't biologically hardwired to be with the same mate for decades on end makes the prospects of such things occurring extremely high
 

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Women cheat on us, we cheat on them.... Like car accidents, minor and diasterous, this s-it happens, and probably always will. The fact that humans aren't biologically hardwired to be with the same mate for decades on end makes the prospects of such things occurring extremely high
Yup. I agree. Men get mad at us for saying this but its the truth. It sucks. You can minimize it by picking a woman who thinks you are her soulmate. You can also minimize it by picking a woman with father instilled values but it is still a risk.
 

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Women cheat on us, we cheat on them.... Like car accidents, minor and diasterous, this s-it happens, and probably always will. The fact that humans aren't biologically hardwired to be with the same mate for decades on end makes the prospects of such things occurring extremely high
The title of this thread says it’s alright for women to cheat on us. My pushback is that some people disagree, including myself. Anyone can overcome such hardwiring in the same way he can put the fork down after he’s full of food or if he wants to lose weight. When I competed in a bodybuilding show I dealt with extreme and constant hunger during the last two months of prep. I wanted to eat more, but I didn’t. I also did not want to wake up to do cardio, but I did.

My wife and I have an understanding. We have an extremely dim view on divorce. But it either one of us cheats or abuses the other, we are done! The thought of cheating doesn’t occur to me. I can also smell cheating.

I’ve seen this notion of lack of agency in other threads too. Supposedly porn cannot be quit and anyone who has the ability to cheat will do so, and shouldn’t be dealt with. By that logic we shouldn’t tell people to go to the gym or make more money because both activities are often done against our desire to loaf around.

Imagine in the past adulterous wives were considered rock bottom in society, and in some cases publicly beaten or excommunicated, and men became so degenerated that they put up with their own humiliation by women? There were also times in which it was permissible for husbands to harm male home wreckers or undesirable men pursuing their daughters. Freaking lulz.

If a man wants to tolerate a woman who cheated, he might stop further cheating by confronting the man with whom she cheated without violence.
 
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The title of this thread says it’s alright for women to cheat on us. My pushback is that some people disagree, including myself. Anyone can overcome such hardwiring in the same way he can put the fork down after he’s full of food or wants to lose weight. When I competed in a bodybuilding show I dealt with extreme and constant hunger during the last two months of prep. I wanted to eat more, but I didn’t. I also did not want to wake up to do cardio, but I did.

My wife and I have an understanding. We have an extremely dim view on divorce. But it either one of us cheats or abuses the other, it is done! The thought of cheating doesn’t occur to me. I can also smell cheating.

Imagine in the past adulterous wives were considered rock bottom, and in some cases publicly beaten or excommunicated, and men became so degenerated that they put up with their own humiliation by women? Lulz galore.
I'm not saying that infidelity is desirable or praiseworthy. Given that this is real life, and not a rom-com or Disney movie though, it does happen
 
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