Immaculate
Master Don Juan
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Wyldfire, get over here in those c@m fukk me boots before I light the fuse on your tampon, woman!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
patheticOriginally posted by Immaculate
Wyldfire, get over here in those c@m fukk me boots before I light the fuse on your tampon, woman!
Yes you most certainly are.Originally posted by RaWBLooD
pathetic
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
We met up at a bar that I specified. She's not a bar chick... she's a freakin programmer who supposedly makes over 100K a year...living in a 500K+ home all alone.Originally posted by MackJr
It's odd that this is in the mature men section.
You had a One Night Stand. You shouldn't expect any more from a bar chick. Only 20% of marriages come from bars and clubs.
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT. If you specialize in LTRs, avoid the bars and clubs unless you expressly want an ONS.
Aren't you the guy that got a DWI and then had sex with his girlfriend without a condom the other day?
You're out of control, dude. If you can't decide rationally when adn how how sex is a part of your life, you've missed the whole idea of being a DJ.
Originally posted by MackJr
Female programmers are like HB9s or 10s even if they're only 5s in real life. This is because they work in mostly male environments, because most women don't have minds configured to like logic and programming.
Take a look at The Art of Seduction. What you've just experienced is essentially the female Dandy. A woman who doesn't possess the whiny and clinginess of normal women, so she's immune to the standard male fare. It's similar to the Laura Croft effect.
Anyway, that book talks about each seduction style and its countermove.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Go ahead and post your PM...it doesn't reflect at all on me...it only shows that you foolishly value this woman MORE than you do yourself. That is dumb.Originally posted by Immaculate
Wyld check your PM. I was a gentleman and didn't post it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.