Immaculate
Master Don Juan
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Wyldfire, get over here in those c@m fukk me boots before I light the fuse on your tampon, woman!
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
patheticOriginally posted by Immaculate
Wyldfire, get over here in those c@m fukk me boots before I light the fuse on your tampon, woman!
Yes you most certainly are.Originally posted by RaWBLooD
pathetic
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
We met up at a bar that I specified. She's not a bar chick... she's a freakin programmer who supposedly makes over 100K a year...living in a 500K+ home all alone.Originally posted by MackJr
It's odd that this is in the mature men section.
You had a One Night Stand. You shouldn't expect any more from a bar chick. Only 20% of marriages come from bars and clubs.
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT. If you specialize in LTRs, avoid the bars and clubs unless you expressly want an ONS.
Aren't you the guy that got a DWI and then had sex with his girlfriend without a condom the other day?
You're out of control, dude. If you can't decide rationally when adn how how sex is a part of your life, you've missed the whole idea of being a DJ.
Originally posted by MackJr
Female programmers are like HB9s or 10s even if they're only 5s in real life. This is because they work in mostly male environments, because most women don't have minds configured to like logic and programming.
Take a look at The Art of Seduction. What you've just experienced is essentially the female Dandy. A woman who doesn't possess the whiny and clinginess of normal women, so she's immune to the standard male fare. It's similar to the Laura Croft effect.
Anyway, that book talks about each seduction style and its countermove.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Go ahead and post your PM...it doesn't reflect at all on me...it only shows that you foolishly value this woman MORE than you do yourself. That is dumb.Originally posted by Immaculate
Wyld check your PM. I was a gentleman and didn't post it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.