"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She says she doesn't like me

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Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
I don't understand:confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't see a problem here.
 
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lol wtf? Well, I SNL a chick a couple months back on a date after she said I was cute but wasn't her type. Haha whatev, I got balls deep and that's what matters.
 
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Easy... It means you're doable, but they're not into you. Not everyone has high standards if they just want sex. Or, if you're around at the time, and they want sex.
 
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floydb25 said:
Easy... It means you're doable, but they're not into you. Not everyone has high standards if they just want sex. Or, if you're around at the time, and they want sex.
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Agreed. If a chicks horny enough she will be willing to bang a guy as long as he isnt obese or deformed.

It could also be part of a girls anti-slut defense. She will say stupid things as to give them plausible deniability like "I didnt even like him, I was drunk, etc.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mustfirstregister said:
Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
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Better than the reverse.
 
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mustfirstregister said:
thanks for the replies. but i want them to like me. why they dont say it?
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Are you asking them if they like you?
Shouldn't do that, it sounds needy.
If they're banging you, I'd say they like you.
 
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mustfirstregister said:
Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
I don't understand:confused:
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They don't have to like you to bang you. They just have to be attracted to you.

Here are the possibilities:

1. She's doesn't like you and isn't attracted to you. Thus, she doesn't want anything to do with you. No friendship, no hookup, no dating, NOTHING.

2. She likes you but isn't attracted to you. This is called friendzone. She enjoys your company, but you don't make her gina tingle.

3. She doesn't like you, but is attracted to you. This is the usually the bad boy thing. She lusts for you because she finds you PHYSICALLY attractive, but doesn't like how you treat her. She'll bang you and TRY not to get too attached.

4. She likes you and is attracted to you. A relationship (with s*x obviously) is possible. She enjoys your company, and she doesn't mind sleeping with you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Agreed. If a chicks horny enough she will be willing to bang a guy as long as he isnt obese or deformed.
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I like your posts gaspipe. I don't want to hijack this thread (ie start a sub-thread), but are you pretty sure that a chick, if horny enough, will lower her standards to F?

We know for sure that men lower their standards for s*x when they want it badly enough. I used to think women had STRICT looks standards for s*x that are never compromised. But I willing to re-evaluate that position and possibly join your camp on this one. You've seen them hook up with less attractive guys when they were horny enough?
 
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I like your posts gaspipe. I don't want to hijack this thread (ie start a sub-thread), but are you pretty sure that a chick, if horny enough, will lower her standards to F?

We know for sure that men lower their standards for s*x when they want it badly enough. I used to think women had STRICT looks standards for s*x that are never compromised. But I willing to re-evaluate that position and possibly join your camp on this one. You've seen them hook up with less attractive guys when they were horny enough?
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Yes Ive seen it for myself. One new years eve several years ago some friends and I rented out a hotel room. Among our group was a smoking hot 8.5 girl.

Well to make the long story short (no pun intended) a guy within our group who was a friend of my cousin ended up shagging this girl that night and I heard them going at it since I was sleeping in the same room on the other bed.

The guy wasnt ugly. You might say even cute for a girl but he was kind of short maybe 5-5 but definitely not in this girl's league.

Ive seen many hot girls with average guys and dont necessarily suscribe to the notion that all women even the hot ones will stick to a standard to get laid.

Like I said. If a women is horny enough I think she will bang a guy as long as he is acceptable though not necessarily good looking or physically attractive.
 
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Mike32ct said:
They don't have to like you to bang you. They just have to be attracted to you.

Here are the possibilities:

1. She's doesn't like you and isn't attracted to you. Thus, she doesn't want anything to do with you. No friendship, no hookup, no dating, NOTHING.

2. She likes you but isn't attracted to you. This is called friendzone. She enjoys your company, but you don't make her gina tingle.

3. She doesn't like you, but is attracted to you. This is the usually the bad boy thing. She lusts for you because she finds you PHYSICALLY attractive, but doesn't like how you treat her. She'll bang you and TRY not to get too attached.

4. She likes you and is attracted to you. A relationship (with s*x obviously) is possible. She enjoys your company, and she doesn't mind sleeping with you.
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I think these are excellent points.
 
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Thanks Gaspipe. I'm convinced now :).

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Yes Ive seen it for myself. One new years eve several years ago some friends and I rented out a hotel room. Among our group was a smoking hot 8.5 girl.

Well to make the long story short (no pun intended) a guy within our group who was a friend of my cousin ended up shagging this girl that night and I heard them going at it since I was sleeping in the same room on the other bed.

The guy wasnt ugly. You might say even cute for a girl but he was kind of short maybe 5-5 but definitely not in this girl's league.

Ive seen many hot girls with average guys and dont necessarily suscribe to the notion that all women even the hot ones will stick to a standard to get laid.

Like I said. If a women is horny enough I think she will bang a guy as long as he is acceptable though not necessarily good looking or physically attractive.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Mike: you're missing 2 1/2

She likes you, is attracted to you, but doesn't find you attractIVE. No sparks or challenge, but still wants sex. Nice guys; friends with benefits. Could also be a one time thing.
 
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