"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
I don't understand:confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't see a problem here.
 
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lol wtf? Well, I SNL a chick a couple months back on a date after she said I was cute but wasn't her type. Haha whatev, I got balls deep and that's what matters.
 
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Easy... It means you're doable, but they're not into you. Not everyone has high standards if they just want sex. Or, if you're around at the time, and they want sex.
 
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floydb25 said:
Easy... It means you're doable, but they're not into you. Not everyone has high standards if they just want sex. Or, if you're around at the time, and they want sex.
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Agreed. If a chicks horny enough she will be willing to bang a guy as long as he isnt obese or deformed.

It could also be part of a girls anti-slut defense. She will say stupid things as to give them plausible deniability like "I didnt even like him, I was drunk, etc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mustfirstregister said:
Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
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Better than the reverse.
 
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mustfirstregister said:
thanks for the replies. but i want them to like me. why they dont say it?
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Are you asking them if they like you?
Shouldn't do that, it sounds needy.
If they're banging you, I'd say they like you.
 
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mustfirstregister said:
Why do chicks say to me "they don't like me" but they end up banging me?
I don't understand:confused:
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They don't have to like you to bang you. They just have to be attracted to you.

Here are the possibilities:

1. She's doesn't like you and isn't attracted to you. Thus, she doesn't want anything to do with you. No friendship, no hookup, no dating, NOTHING.

2. She likes you but isn't attracted to you. This is called friendzone. She enjoys your company, but you don't make her gina tingle.

3. She doesn't like you, but is attracted to you. This is the usually the bad boy thing. She lusts for you because she finds you PHYSICALLY attractive, but doesn't like how you treat her. She'll bang you and TRY not to get too attached.

4. She likes you and is attracted to you. A relationship (with s*x obviously) is possible. She enjoys your company, and she doesn't mind sleeping with you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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gaspipe said:
Agreed. If a chicks horny enough she will be willing to bang a guy as long as he isnt obese or deformed.
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I like your posts gaspipe. I don't want to hijack this thread (ie start a sub-thread), but are you pretty sure that a chick, if horny enough, will lower her standards to F?

We know for sure that men lower their standards for s*x when they want it badly enough. I used to think women had STRICT looks standards for s*x that are never compromised. But I willing to re-evaluate that position and possibly join your camp on this one. You've seen them hook up with less attractive guys when they were horny enough?
 
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Mike32ct said:
I like your posts gaspipe. I don't want to hijack this thread (ie start a sub-thread), but are you pretty sure that a chick, if horny enough, will lower her standards to F?

We know for sure that men lower their standards for s*x when they want it badly enough. I used to think women had STRICT looks standards for s*x that are never compromised. But I willing to re-evaluate that position and possibly join your camp on this one. You've seen them hook up with less attractive guys when they were horny enough?
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Yes Ive seen it for myself. One new years eve several years ago some friends and I rented out a hotel room. Among our group was a smoking hot 8.5 girl.

Well to make the long story short (no pun intended) a guy within our group who was a friend of my cousin ended up shagging this girl that night and I heard them going at it since I was sleeping in the same room on the other bed.

The guy wasnt ugly. You might say even cute for a girl but he was kind of short maybe 5-5 but definitely not in this girl's league.

Ive seen many hot girls with average guys and dont necessarily suscribe to the notion that all women even the hot ones will stick to a standard to get laid.

Like I said. If a women is horny enough I think she will bang a guy as long as he is acceptable though not necessarily good looking or physically attractive.
 
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Mike32ct said:
They don't have to like you to bang you. They just have to be attracted to you.

Here are the possibilities:

1. She's doesn't like you and isn't attracted to you. Thus, she doesn't want anything to do with you. No friendship, no hookup, no dating, NOTHING.

2. She likes you but isn't attracted to you. This is called friendzone. She enjoys your company, but you don't make her gina tingle.

3. She doesn't like you, but is attracted to you. This is the usually the bad boy thing. She lusts for you because she finds you PHYSICALLY attractive, but doesn't like how you treat her. She'll bang you and TRY not to get too attached.

4. She likes you and is attracted to you. A relationship (with s*x obviously) is possible. She enjoys your company, and she doesn't mind sleeping with you.
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I think these are excellent points.
 
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Thanks Gaspipe. I'm convinced now :).

gaspipe said:
Yes Ive seen it for myself. One new years eve several years ago some friends and I rented out a hotel room. Among our group was a smoking hot 8.5 girl.

Well to make the long story short (no pun intended) a guy within our group who was a friend of my cousin ended up shagging this girl that night and I heard them going at it since I was sleeping in the same room on the other bed.

The guy wasnt ugly. You might say even cute for a girl but he was kind of short maybe 5-5 but definitely not in this girl's league.

Ive seen many hot girls with average guys and dont necessarily suscribe to the notion that all women even the hot ones will stick to a standard to get laid.

Like I said. If a women is horny enough I think she will bang a guy as long as he is acceptable though not necessarily good looking or physically attractive.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mike: you're missing 2 1/2

She likes you, is attracted to you, but doesn't find you attractIVE. No sparks or challenge, but still wants sex. Nice guys; friends with benefits. Could also be a one time thing.
 
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