You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
B-Lemond said:9. Further Reading
Sir_Chancealot's Advanced sexual Techniques - Go to thread
Your Penis Didn't Come With a Manual. Here is one - Go to thread
Kuprin's Male Multiple Orgasm info - Go to thread
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nighthawk said:Women are much sicker than you think. Their number one fantasy is rape (by a handsome stranger they'd otherwise find attractive of course) but it's indicative of their burning need to feel powerless and dominated in bed. And when you get them in this role they will happily suck your **** til you get bored.
The Sir Chancelot thread is a must-read. My ex, a beautiful model, read his posts and ended up getting so turned on she wanked herself silly.
In my 20 years of experience, the hotter they are, the more they want to be 'abused.' They get people kissing their ass everywhere they go and long for the simple discipline of childhood. Smack that ass, pull that hair, throw her up against a wall, treat her like a slut, that's what those dirty girls crave.
Not that I don't find the experience unstimulating myself.