"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When you have a date set in a week: DON'T GHOST THE GIRL FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK
You'll get a much bigger chance of her flaking on you. I made this mistake a few times in the past. It's really important you don't do that because the girl will start wondering and things will start feeling not right to her.. this will lead to a flake.
What I always do when a date is like a week away is that I text her every 3-4 days or so. Something light and funny. So she knows it's still on and that I haven't forgotten about her or worse, that I'm just out texting other girls now. This last part may be true, and a woman can wonder about it, but if she doesn't hear a thing from you anymore she'll come to this conclusion and start the auto-rejection process where you are being turned down so she can protect herself from getting hurt.
No really, don't ghost her, but don't stalk her either. Just a simple text every few days so you don't break report is all it takes.
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You move on to the next girl, if she has low interest why bother?
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We have no context with what you are talking about so it is hard to really say anything. Is this a first date? Have you already set the date at this point? Have you asked her out on the date and she hasn't responded?
Give us more context to get a better answer.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
For instance: do you skip weeks before asking her out?
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No. At least I don't. Other people's answers may very. I am very quick to ask women out when I start interacting with them. Usually by the 4th or 5th message I will ask them if they want to get together and connect in person sometime.
If you are messaging them for long periods of time before aking them out you are not doing yourself any favors. You are simply wasting time. Move faster.
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This is likely a nexting.
If a relationship is going to blossom into something, you need to be seeing her in person once every 4-7 days in the first 2 months. If that happens, that's a relationship.
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I'd consider it low interest. Someone that is excited to see you won't want to wait a week. Low interest = low value = generally a waste of time dealing with them at all.
There is absolutely no reason why a high interest girl wouldn't wanna see you asap. Girls will push you out if they already have dates lined up with the same or higher smv guys most likely.
Don't be a benchwarmer or play second string with these b1tches.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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One of the best pieces of advice out there. Wait a least 48 hours after an early stage to ask again and see which chicks hit you up within the first 24.
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I’ve had some hit me up on day 4, day 5, and even day 8. The wait gets them to crack. If they have interest level, they feel the space. It eats them.