"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When you have a date set in a week: DON'T GHOST THE GIRL FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK
You'll get a much bigger chance of her flaking on you. I made this mistake a few times in the past. It's really important you don't do that because the girl will start wondering and things will start feeling not right to her.. this will lead to a flake.
What I always do when a date is like a week away is that I text her every 3-4 days or so. Something light and funny. So she knows it's still on and that I haven't forgotten about her or worse, that I'm just out texting other girls now. This last part may be true, and a woman can wonder about it, but if she doesn't hear a thing from you anymore she'll come to this conclusion and start the auto-rejection process where you are being turned down so she can protect herself from getting hurt.
No really, don't ghost her, but don't stalk her either. Just a simple text every few days so you don't break report is all it takes.
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You move on to the next girl, if she has low interest why bother?
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We have no context with what you are talking about so it is hard to really say anything. Is this a first date? Have you already set the date at this point? Have you asked her out on the date and she hasn't responded?
Give us more context to get a better answer.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
For instance: do you skip weeks before asking her out?
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No. At least I don't. Other people's answers may very. I am very quick to ask women out when I start interacting with them. Usually by the 4th or 5th message I will ask them if they want to get together and connect in person sometime.
If you are messaging them for long periods of time before aking them out you are not doing yourself any favors. You are simply wasting time. Move faster.
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This is likely a nexting.
If a relationship is going to blossom into something, you need to be seeing her in person once every 4-7 days in the first 2 months. If that happens, that's a relationship.
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I'd consider it low interest. Someone that is excited to see you won't want to wait a week. Low interest = low value = generally a waste of time dealing with them at all.
There is absolutely no reason why a high interest girl wouldn't wanna see you asap. Girls will push you out if they already have dates lined up with the same or higher smv guys most likely.
Don't be a benchwarmer or play second string with these b1tches.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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One of the best pieces of advice out there. Wait a least 48 hours after an early stage to ask again and see which chicks hit you up within the first 24.
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I’ve had some hit me up on day 4, day 5, and even day 8. The wait gets them to crack. If they have interest level, they feel the space. It eats them.