You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Wow. I'm going to agree with something LMS posted. Watch for the Apocalypse soon,..Last Man Standing said:No such thing as a "sex addiction" - more matrix shyt!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I agree. There was a thread about this not too long ago.Phyzzle said:The interviews were dumb, but that guy's system is as creepy as fvck.
He says you should go into a pub before a date, and offer the bartender huge tips to refer to the seltzer water you will be ordering as an alcoholic drink, and bill you as such, in case the girl takes a peek at the check. Of course, you'll also be paying him extra on the sly to mix her drinks extra strong.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What is wrong with that? I will tell you from a DJ perspective what is wrong...ketostix said:Well if someone believes in the premise that what he's doing is wrong, then it's just as wrong for the females he's seducing. They know what the deal is. Classic example of women wanting and willingly being "hors" and then transfering all the blame and responsibility on the male.
I don't see what he's doing as being "creepy". I would put zero credibility in that one girl's statement, "He answered the door with his c0ck in his hand..".So what if he chooses not to drink but believes in creating the impression with his date that he is drinking? Whether he admitted he wasn't drinking or does not, either way he's not getting drunk. He's just putting on appearances. How is that any different than a woman wearing make-up to look better, high heels to look taller etc? As far as keeping a spreadsheet, what's so wrong with keeping notes to help in remembering various details. When you have a lot of information to keep straight, people write it down for all sorts of other things. Why is this different? If your going to spend many plates and your memory isn't the best, it comes with the territory.
Totally agree on the dinner part.Poonani Maker said:I like what Janka says about the mass text-messaging in the afternoon while you're real busy at work. He's adamant in saying nothing until after you've fvcked her, thus leaving her to her imagination, whether romantic or not, of you. We could never dream up the things that these soap-opera watching chicks dream up, so why not let em do it? And keep our mouths shut about ourselves despite our accomplishments. I like the lounge thing too. Eating does lead to the woman ordering everything on the menu and getting bloated. Amen.
The guy is THIRTY years old. That makes him MATURE. He is not a 20 year old kid, pretending to be a mature man.wolf116 said:Why do you people keep posting threads in the mature man section when they have nothing to do with mature men!
And why are you posting in the MM section when you are NOT a mature man?wolf116 said:Why do you people keep posting threads in the mature man section when they have nothing to do with mature men!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.