Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pierce Manhammer

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Eject. Her health problems will only get worse.

She is taking up your valuable time and has nothing to offer.
 

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
She should be offering BJs. If she loves you, she'd do it without even being asked. I do agree with you that you should never have to ask for that.

If she is not making up for the lack of sex with more affection/BJs/massages/etc, it speaks volumes about her character and what she thinks about you. I would walk away.
 

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I figured most would say what I’m thinking. She’s part of the entourage, but was the “main”. Yeah I’ll be honest when I don’t have to spend time with her I feel like a weight has been lifted.

The answer is obvious i just needed some reinforcement.

thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
 

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You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
Talk about some whack a doodle crazy conspiracy nonsense being peddled.
 
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