Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pierce Manhammer

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Eject. Her health problems will only get worse.

She is taking up your valuable time and has nothing to offer.
 

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
She should be offering BJs. If she loves you, she'd do it without even being asked. I do agree with you that you should never have to ask for that.

If she is not making up for the lack of sex with more affection/BJs/massages/etc, it speaks volumes about her character and what she thinks about you. I would walk away.
 

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I figured most would say what I’m thinking. She’s part of the entourage, but was the “main”. Yeah I’ll be honest when I don’t have to spend time with her I feel like a weight has been lifted.

The answer is obvious i just needed some reinforcement.

thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
 

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You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
Talk about some whack a doodle crazy conspiracy nonsense being peddled.
 
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