"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pierce Manhammer

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Eject. Her health problems will only get worse.

She is taking up your valuable time and has nothing to offer.
 

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
She should be offering BJs. If she loves you, she'd do it without even being asked. I do agree with you that you should never have to ask for that.

If she is not making up for the lack of sex with more affection/BJs/massages/etc, it speaks volumes about her character and what she thinks about you. I would walk away.
 

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I figured most would say what I’m thinking. She’s part of the entourage, but was the “main”. Yeah I’ll be honest when I don’t have to spend time with her I feel like a weight has been lifted.

The answer is obvious i just needed some reinforcement.

thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You have a girlfriend that is in her 40’s a decade your junior. It’s been six months, she’s attractive, sweet, you spend a few days a week together.

Suddenly she gets ill - for purposes of the discussion let’s say she has an issue that causes her deep abdominal pain and sex is completely off the table. You burn two days a week with this gal when you could be off banging others in that time.

You do care about her, but the lack of sex, until the problem is resolved is basically driving you batshyt. You’re trying to be Mr. Supportive and still spend time with her. It’s been a month since you’ve had any sexual contact and will probably be another two until you do.

You’re growing impatient because she hasn’t even offered a handy or bj.

What do you do?

Tell her you need some relief? Frankly if I need to tell a woman I need sex, that’s a dead end - she should anticipate that I do and provide something.

Continue spinning around these two days or eject? Ejecting is super Darwinian and frankly brutal, but on the flip most chicks probably would eject with no remorse?

So, what do you do?
You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
 

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You suggest anti-Vax mitigation protocols is what you do. Easier said (by me) than done (by you) though. LOL.

My sympathies but I called this kinda thing (living in NPC land and not wanting to come to terms with the realities of our society) affecting your relationship 6 months ago.
Talk about some whack a doodle crazy conspiracy nonsense being peddled.
 
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