"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Saw A Girl At A Party, Felt I Got Some Eye Contact, Sort of Danced With Her,...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
2. Just because her facebook says single. Doesn't mean she really is...
3. You made some eye contact. Didn't exchange words but, sort of danced. Well, depending on your situation. You could send her a message on facebook saying "hey remember me from that party?" "You seem like a fun girl, maybe even fun enough for me." "We should get together sometime." Just take it from there.
1. By "sort of danced with her", I meant that I cuffed arms with her three times and did a little "merry-go-round" dance with her in the style of a square dance. No grind session, though.I.A.F.Y.B. said:1. Your sort of danced with her? What does this exactly mean?
2. Just because her facebook says single. Doesn't mean she really is...
3. You made some eye contact. Didn't exchange words but, sort of danced. Well, depending on your situation. You could send her a message on facebook saying "hey remember me from that party?" "You seem like a fun girl, maybe even fun enough for me." "We should get together sometime." Just take it from there.
2. I know she's single because she said so when she was participating in one of the dance contests.
3. I wanted to send her a message that says something like, "I saw you at the party the other day. I wanted to talked to you, but I couldn't find the best time." But I'm a little worried that this might be too stalkerish. I could have approached her after the party ended when she was behind me as we were both walking toward the parking lot but I felt the approach might appear too sketchy AND she was talking to someone on her cell. I would like to see her in person again but I don't know when that day will come.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
next time, approach!!!! facebook messages are not approaches!!!
and there are no "best times" to talk to someone. just go over and talk to her. approaching is hard, and one of the first challenges we all face is getting used to them. start getting used to them so this never happens again.