"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Saw A Girl At A Party, Felt I Got Some Eye Contact, Sort of Danced With Her,...

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Never Exchange Words With Her, But I Found Her Facebook (she's single)

What's my next step?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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1. Your sort of danced with her? What does this exactly mean?

2. Just because her facebook says single. Doesn't mean she really is...

3. You made some eye contact. Didn't exchange words but, sort of danced. Well, depending on your situation. You could send her a message on facebook saying "hey remember me from that party?" "You seem like a fun girl, maybe even fun enough for me." "We should get together sometime." Just take it from there.
 
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He has 889 posts.


Eight hundred and eighty nine.


It's sad to see how little this boards helps some people.


Look man, go read the DJ bible. just go. now. you need to do a complete 180 and straighten yourself up.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
1. Your sort of danced with her? What does this exactly mean?

2. Just because her facebook says single. Doesn't mean she really is...

3. You made some eye contact. Didn't exchange words but, sort of danced. Well, depending on your situation. You could send her a message on facebook saying "hey remember me from that party?" "You seem like a fun girl, maybe even fun enough for me." "We should get together sometime." Just take it from there.
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1. By "sort of danced with her", I meant that I cuffed arms with her three times and did a little "merry-go-round" dance with her in the style of a square dance. No grind session, though.

2. I know she's single because she said so when she was participating in one of the dance contests.

3. I wanted to send her a message that says something like, "I saw you at the party the other day. I wanted to talked to you, but I couldn't find the best time." But I'm a little worried that this might be too stalkerish. I could have approached her after the party ended when she was behind me as we were both walking toward the parking lot but I felt the approach might appear too sketchy AND she was talking to someone on her cell. I would like to see her in person again but I don't know when that day will come.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i think you missed your chance. go for it, by all means, but there's no real connection here, and by implying that you felt like there was, you're probably going to chase her away.

next time, approach!!!! facebook messages are not approaches!!!

and there are no "best times" to talk to someone. just go over and talk to her. approaching is hard, and one of the first challenges we all face is getting used to them. start getting used to them so this never happens again.
 
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