You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
King Turi said:She probably got molested when she was a child, or didn't have a father figure.
Both would explain the fetish for older men.
Either way who gives a crap, you got other ladies after you?
And the mark of the AFC comes out!DonGorgon said:... well men take what ever the hell they can get cause beggars cant be choosers
DonGorgon said:1. Met hot 18 year old chic at club on friday night.
2. Call her monday make plans to hang out tuesday
3. Pick her up she comes to my house we talk watch porn make out and F
4. Conversation is great real chemistry I think..
5. Drop her home she gives me tight hug and kiss on lips
6. She calls me before i make it home tells me to call her when im hom
7. I call her round 3am wen im goin to sleep she does not answer
8. Wednesday i dont hear from her so i call at 10 pm she says she is talking to her best friend and will call me back... She never called back.![]()
What should i do? Im assuming she decided shes not interested? Should i cut her off and assume she just wanted a one night stand.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
nah im no afc but many men are...scrouds said:And the mark of the AFC comes out!
yeh i got 3 other plates spinning so its all good but you may be right. She is not giving me good enough feedback at all..Solomon said:Sorry to break it to you player, but it was a one night stand bro....
I use to have the same problem, I would try to add a chick to my "squad" or "wife" her on that type of tip. It rarely works, most chicks like that are just looking to "get in, get off, and get out" she ain't looking for love or good convo she just looking for one night of fun.
every friday and saturday i go to nightclubs and hunt.. for every 7 number i get i F one ho..Solomon said:Don how often do you go out?
sounds like you in the field heavy
1 out of 7?DonGorgon said:every friday and saturday i go to nightclubs and hunt.. for every 7 number i get i F one ho..
Im supposed to hang with this girl on wednesday but i think she will flake.. if she does im done with her..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeh i got a new 19 year old Fbuddy on my team who is all business no BS.. so im good..Solomon said:1 out of 7?
that ain't bad at all bro, I think for me it's double that LOL,
a lotta people don't understand this **** is a numbers game
and yooo if you know a girl will flake make back up plans, I was suppose to hang with this chick yesterday but I hadn't heard from her at all, I got the hint and make back up plans with another one.
make sure you got options!!!
Most women at the bar are gonna F several dudes they met that night just make sure you are on of them.. They will choose different dudes for different reasons. I have concluded that for "regular men" its 50% luck and 50% skill with getting women..Solomon said:^^I'm trying to get on that level
I had 22 year old chick but she was flakey as hell, very cute though
But DG
you got me thinking though 1 out of 7 thats a 14% clip which is good, now I'm assuming thats girls you close right? or just approach overall? cause if it's overall that's a frigging good number (you must be a stud, no homo)
I thought about back in 2006 (simp/afc days) I was at a 6% clip so that's 1 out of 16. I don't know what my clip is now, I don't keep track of it
But damn you are right DG in what you use to say in Jayer's thread, it's not easy coming up at the bar if you a regular dude.
The problem with Mass approaching is that you can get more options but will get more flakes. Quality approaches are rare though just cause some of the club's move so fast that if you don't "strong arm" a broad you might lose her to someone else
what are your thoughts on this DG?
You know the deal.. 100% rightchangeherways said:i've found that if you wanna keep women in situations where they havent known you long and get the f - 2 things need to happen to combat her anti slut defense:
1. f them over and over like they will only be f'ed a few times in their lifetime. im talking that f them while holding them up in the middle of the room,. f them until you're both passed out. then...
2. sleep with them until they wake up. make sure you're holding them through the night (<< your biological chemicals and hers will mix - creating a primal connection words cannot create)
^ this is all assuming shes a freak in bed who's really into it... if she's not - #1 will never happen. cuz bore hors who just lay there like a board with a sqooshy hole will never get tired from fing. who wants worthless women like that anyway?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.