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The irony is,it's THE SON who's actually showing the father how A MAN is supposed to move on.

This comment right here.......





That's a crock of HORSESH1T. While it's good he's displaying qualities that the father obviously lacks,there's no way A CHILD should be that intuned and aware of all that went down between them,so much so,that he's become entangled in the drama and now is telling the WOMAN that his dad no longer wants her.

He SHOULDN'T BE entangled in this sh1t. Not to mention he has NO IDEA that his father actually STILL WANTS the girl,he's just pulled back,hoping at some point she gives the green light. If he really,truly moved on,it wouldn't matter if she gave the green light or not.


No child is mature enough to deal with this,or should even have to.
He knows because he has eyes. My son and I used to be at my ex's house many nights. And now we have e been broken up for a year, he spent all this year playing games online with her daughter and video calls.
He is moving to live with me in 2 weeks. He lives with his mother in a another country. I know for fact in 2 weeks my ex will reach out to ask him over to sleepovers and playdates with her daughter. Her daughter was already crying on the phone the other day telling him why he hasn't moved here sooner.

It's gonna be a hell of a problem. The kids are really attached..and even tho I still like my ex I don't know if I wanna see hwr and have to deal with her, it will be painful. I think I'm just telling my ex the playdates are over.
 

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The irony is,it's THE SON who's actually showing the father how A MAN is supposed to move on.

This comment right here.......





That's a crock of HORSESH1T. While it's good he's displaying qualities that the father obviously lacks,there's no way A CHILD should be that intuned and aware of all that went down between them,so much so,that he's become entangled in the drama and now is telling the WOMAN that his dad no longer wants her.

He SHOULDN'T BE entangled in this sh1t. Not to mention he has NO IDEA that his father actually STILL WANTS the girl,he's just pulled back,hoping at some point she gives the green light. If he really,truly moved on,it wouldn't matter if she gave the green light or not.


No child is mature enough to deal with this,or should even have to.
What you recommend?
Not allow kids to meet and have their friendship?
 

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I'm thinking that even if by letting kids meet would lead to something down the road which probably won't, the process would be too painful, to see her, watch how much she doesn't care for me, possibly even see her with a new guy, hearing my son telling me stories about new guy. Best to cut this off, not let them meet. They can just be WhatsApp friends as they are now. I'll stay away with my son. She won't change her mind but if she does she knows where me and my son are.

I've been through a lot of pain with this girl, better not go an open again a door for more pain and disappointment.
Your situation with that last lady program yourself to put yourself last and to value people who do not value you. Everytime you think about her you further cement yourself in this position.
 

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You again, I could hv sworn we set you right back then.

How come u r still with this issue?
What's up man? I'm not as crazy as I was. I actually just came here to see u guys lol. Because last time I was all over the place.

My boy is moving here in 2 weeks, flights tickets bought and all. Just still wondering if I should let the kids be friends. My son and my ex's daughter that is.

But going back to my old threads and this one too, I think I'm gonna tell her no when she reaches out. Truth is seeing her, dealing with her, maybe see her with a guy will set me back and probably will put me in a beta position where I'll probably end up saying or doing something stupid.

No more playdates.. All or nothing for me
 

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Your situation with that last lady program yourself to put yourself last and to value people who do not value you. Everytime you think about her you further cement yourself in this position.
I like the way you see things man. Yeah I'm staying away, no more playdates. Would not be healthy to blend families with a girl that clearly detests me and doesn't value me.
If down the road she keeps pushing and pushing for kids to meet I might let her daughter come to my place to see my kid, but my kid ain't going more to her house to hang around her and play family with whoever guys she is sleeping with
 

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I like the way you see things man. Yeah I'm staying away, no more playdates. Would not be healthy to blend families with a girl that clearly detests me and doesn't value me.
If down the road she keeps pushing and pushing for kids to meet I might let her daughter come to my place to see my kid, but my kid ain't going more to her house to hang around her and play family with whoever guys she is sleeping with
Google "neuroplasticity". Basically our actions and thoughts literally rewire our brain. So our actions and thoughts cannot center around a situation or a female whose treating us less than at a HIGH level of worth, it will make it so that's all we think we are worthy of.
 

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Google "neuroplasticity". Basically our actions and thoughts literally rewire our brain. So our actions and thoughts cannot center around a situation or a female whose treating us less than at a HIGH level of worth, it will make it so that's all we think we are worthy of.
You need you a new woman who treats you no less than a king, and you need to treat yourself like a king first! And if you are dating, several women is fine, but the priority should be interactions with ladies who treat yourself at a high level of worth. Until then, you treat your own self as a level of high worth.
 

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The irony is,it's THE SON who's actually showing the father how A MAN is supposed to move on.

This comment right here.......





That's a crock of HORSESH1T. While it's good he's displaying qualities that the father obviously lacks,there's no way A CHILD should be that intuned and aware of all that went down between them,so much so,that he's become entangled in the drama and now is telling the WOMAN that his dad no longer wants her.

He SHOULDN'T BE entangled in this sh1t. Not to mention he has NO IDEA that his father actually STILL WANTS the girl,he's just pulled back,hoping at some point she gives the green light. If he really,truly moved on,it wouldn't matter if she gave the green light or not.


No child is mature enough to deal with this,or should even have to.
OP has an addiction to this women and she knows it. His son can even sense it. Professional help is needed.
 

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What you recommend?
Not allow kids to meet and have their friendship?
Yes definitely but dont do it through your kid. Meet new people and introduce your son to a new circle. Let them see each other at school.
 

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Yes definitely but dont do it through your kid. Meet new people and introduce your son to a new circle. Let them see each other at school.
By not letting kids meet and not allowing my son to go to my ex's house, I'm gonna be cutting the last cord to my ex and all hopes to have a little chance in the future to at least sleep with her.
Kids won't be in same school.

On the other hand, i have a feeling if I let them meet, I'm gonna expose myself to some major pain, probably see my ex with some guy, or hearing stories through my son.

I think all in all, I think it's best my son and I walk away completely, clean cut.

Kids can talk online but that's as far as it goes.
 
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By not letting kids meet and allowing my son to go to my ex's house, I'm gonna be cutting the last cord to my ex and all hopes to have a little chance in the future to at least sleep with her.
Kids won't be in same school.

On the other hand, i have a feeling if I let them meet, I'm gonna expose myself to some major pain, probably see my ex with some guy, or hearing stories through my son.

I think all in all, I think it's best my son and I walk away completely, clean cut.

Kids can talk online but that's as far as it goes.
Then do it.
 

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It seems like you're making some progress. Don't mess up that progress and go backwards.

As a father myself, I wouldn't use your kids as pawns or have your problems affect what they have. If they want to meet and play with each other, I'd personally let that happen but like you said, be very cordial and brief with your ex and maybe even drop him off on the streetside or driveway but no closer. My $.02
 

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It seems like you're making some progress. Don't mess up that progress and go backwards.

As a father myself, I wouldn't use your kids as pawns or have your problems affect what they have. If they want to meet and play with each other, I'd personally let that happen but like you said, be very cordial and brief with your ex and maybe even drop him off on the streetside or driveway but no closer. My $.02
I don't have a problem with this. And drop him off on the Streetside seems fine for me. When she comes to pick him up, I can just tell my son to go outside alone, she'll probably be waiting in the car herself. I don't wanna see her or approach her after all thr chasing I did without a clear sign she wants to see me. I guess if she really wants to see me she will give me a sign or come to my doorstep.

The only issue with all this is it will give me hope and will make me stay stuck probably. Plus my son at her house, watching a new guy in the bed I used to sleep with her and me with popcorn first row watching all of this.

Of course I can use all of this in my favor too, kids meeting is a chance to somehow show her I ain't chasing, can be adult and show a different side of me.

I have 2 weeks to decide if kids meet or not.
 
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Of course I can use all of this on my favor too, kids meeting is a chance to somehow show her I ain't chasing, can be adult and show a different side of me.
Think like this and stay strong. Your actions will speak to her.
 

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It seems like you're making some progress.

We must be reading two different threads,then. Cause I see absolutely NO PROGRESS whatsoever.

The only difference I see between the OP now,and him in his previous threads is that he's just a few months older. That's it.....nothing more.


Don't mess up that progress and go backwards.
i don't think there's any danger of him moving backwards,since he never moved forward to begin with.
 

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We must be reading two different threads,then. Cause I see absolutely NO PROGRESS whatsoever.

The only difference I see between the OP now,and him in his previous threads is that he's just a few months older. That's it.....nothing more.




i don't think there's any danger of him moving backwards,since he never moved forward to begin with.
He said he fvcked several new babes. But once he opened his mouth about ex your image is he's still stuck.
 

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It's been a year since I broke up.. Took me almost 3 to 4 years to get over my other ex before. I'm not in pain anynore or anything, I have some bad days.
Some things you never get over, you just learn how to live without it.
 

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It's been a year since I broke up.. Took me almost 3 to 4 years to get over my other ex before. I'm not in pain anynore or anything, I have some bad days.
Some things you never get over, you just learn how to live without it.
Live without what? Thats only one person out of billions. There are many females who will satisfy you more and be better for you.
 
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