"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Response to a text dumping?

soulforge

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When do I ask for some clothes I had at her place? It's nothing urgent so I'm happy to wait a few weeks but there some some of my favourite comfy lounging clothes there. Shall I just forget about them?

Forget the comfy lounging clothes man, the loss of them is a very SMALL price to pay, in comparison to staying connected with this chick.. repeating a toxic a cycle, again & again, just for the sake of sex..

Clearly she isn't the girl, who you will ride off into the sunset with!


You will get new comfies to wear in time
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
 

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Because you are too emotional with women
 

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I think that comes from losing my mother to cancer 2 years ago, I was fine before that, how do I stop being so emotional?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
You just answered your own question. As a man that went through a divorce and then a called off engagement, you have to realize that the 9 months wasnt totally wasted and at least you arent going to marry this chick and go through something even more devastating later down the road.

You got steady sex while in the relationship. You learned what to look for, red flag wise, so you can better screen out trash in the future. You hopefully learned that when things start down a bad path with a woman you should be ejecting yourself from the situation instead of trying to rationalize it. Use logic over emotion.

Now put your big boy pants on, go out with these other chicks and have fun. Dont look for anything super serious in attempt to replace the bad relationship you just got out of.

You send "Good luck then"

and then you don't initiate anymore texts. after 1 week, if she texts you, text back "Thanks for keeping in touch but I am already seeing someone. Good luck"

Puts the hamster into overdrive.
Totally agree with this. Basically saying "Fvck you, there are way better women out there and I will find them over dealing with your stupid shyte one more time".
 
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