"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Response to a text dumping?

soulforge

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When do I ask for some clothes I had at her place? It's nothing urgent so I'm happy to wait a few weeks but there some some of my favourite comfy lounging clothes there. Shall I just forget about them?

Forget the comfy lounging clothes man, the loss of them is a very SMALL price to pay, in comparison to staying connected with this chick.. repeating a toxic a cycle, again & again, just for the sake of sex..

Clearly she isn't the girl, who you will ride off into the sunset with!


You will get new comfies to wear in time
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
 

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Because you are too emotional with women
 

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I think that comes from losing my mother to cancer 2 years ago, I was fine before that, how do I stop being so emotional?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
You just answered your own question. As a man that went through a divorce and then a called off engagement, you have to realize that the 9 months wasnt totally wasted and at least you arent going to marry this chick and go through something even more devastating later down the road.

You got steady sex while in the relationship. You learned what to look for, red flag wise, so you can better screen out trash in the future. You hopefully learned that when things start down a bad path with a woman you should be ejecting yourself from the situation instead of trying to rationalize it. Use logic over emotion.

Now put your big boy pants on, go out with these other chicks and have fun. Dont look for anything super serious in attempt to replace the bad relationship you just got out of.

You send "Good luck then"

and then you don't initiate anymore texts. after 1 week, if she texts you, text back "Thanks for keeping in touch but I am already seeing someone. Good luck"

Puts the hamster into overdrive.
Totally agree with this. Basically saying "Fvck you, there are way better women out there and I will find them over dealing with your stupid shyte one more time".
 
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