"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Response to a text dumping?

soulforge

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When do I ask for some clothes I had at her place? It's nothing urgent so I'm happy to wait a few weeks but there some some of my favourite comfy lounging clothes there. Shall I just forget about them?

Forget the comfy lounging clothes man, the loss of them is a very SMALL price to pay, in comparison to staying connected with this chick.. repeating a toxic a cycle, again & again, just for the sake of sex..

Clearly she isn't the girl, who you will ride off into the sunset with!


You will get new comfies to wear in time
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
 

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Because you are too emotional with women
 

Murk

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I think that comes from losing my mother to cancer 2 years ago, I was fine before that, how do I stop being so emotional?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've been active arranging dates with new women but i still miss her! How can someone so wrong make me feel so good, I feel like the past year has been a waste, God knows how people deal with divorce and ending LTR, 9 months feels hard enough.
You just answered your own question. As a man that went through a divorce and then a called off engagement, you have to realize that the 9 months wasnt totally wasted and at least you arent going to marry this chick and go through something even more devastating later down the road.

You got steady sex while in the relationship. You learned what to look for, red flag wise, so you can better screen out trash in the future. You hopefully learned that when things start down a bad path with a woman you should be ejecting yourself from the situation instead of trying to rationalize it. Use logic over emotion.

Now put your big boy pants on, go out with these other chicks and have fun. Dont look for anything super serious in attempt to replace the bad relationship you just got out of.

You send "Good luck then"

and then you don't initiate anymore texts. after 1 week, if she texts you, text back "Thanks for keeping in touch but I am already seeing someone. Good luck"

Puts the hamster into overdrive.
Totally agree with this. Basically saying "Fvck you, there are way better women out there and I will find them over dealing with your stupid shyte one more time".
 
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