Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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responding to hate mail from ex

vachir

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Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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combustiont

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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
If you moved on long ago does this even warrant a response?

Remember, in the process of making a decision, inaction is a completely valid response and I believe applicable in this case. I'd ignore it. She hasn't moved on but you have.

Go have fun man.
 

Dannyrt34

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Yep, ignore it man, nothing good can come from a conversation with a bitter ex. She'll either talk to you to make you feel like shlt or try to piss you off. So ignore it.
 
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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
What the hell does that message even mean? It makes no sense. That isn't even hate mail. This thread is lame.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Desert Fox

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I am diagnosing your GF as being a retard.

"You must be bored. Empty maybe."

Something clearly a retard would write. You know what you do to retards? You ignore them.
 

KontrollerX

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Haha, you got her good bro.

She's all hung up on you and trying to get revenge.

Don't ever respond to her message or talk to her ever again.

Just getting you to talk to her would be validation for her that she is worth something.

Don't give her any validation at all not even the smallest crumb of it. :up:
 

vachir

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thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
 

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vachir said:
thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
just be glad they aren't jedi mindtricks otherwise you'd be screwed.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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