"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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responding to hate mail from ex

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vachir

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Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
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If you moved on long ago does this even warrant a response?

Remember, in the process of making a decision, inaction is a completely valid response and I believe applicable in this case. I'd ignore it. She hasn't moved on but you have.

Go have fun man.
 
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Yep, ignore it man, nothing good can come from a conversation with a bitter ex. She'll either talk to you to make you feel like shlt or try to piss you off. So ignore it.
 
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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
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What the hell does that message even mean? It makes no sense. That isn't even hate mail. This thread is lame.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I am diagnosing your GF as being a retard.

"You must be bored. Empty maybe."

Something clearly a retard would write. You know what you do to retards? You ignore them.
 
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Haha, you got her good bro.

She's all hung up on you and trying to get revenge.

Don't ever respond to her message or talk to her ever again.

Just getting you to talk to her would be validation for her that she is worth something.

Don't give her any validation at all not even the smallest crumb of it. :up:
 
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thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
 
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vachir said:
thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
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just be glad they aren't jedi mindtricks otherwise you'd be screwed.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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