"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
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If you moved on long ago does this even warrant a response?

Remember, in the process of making a decision, inaction is a completely valid response and I believe applicable in this case. I'd ignore it. She hasn't moved on but you have.

Go have fun man.
 
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Yep, ignore it man, nothing good can come from a conversation with a bitter ex. She'll either talk to you to make you feel like shlt or try to piss you off. So ignore it.
 
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vachir said:
Hi DJs,

Long story short-- i broke up with this girl, maybe she didnt take it too well, she deleted me on facebook. now: a year later, out of the blue sent me a message:

"You must be bored.
Empty maybe"

after clicking her profile apparently she got a new boyfriend. not sure what is the reaction she is looking for? i dont want to turn it into a pissing contest since i moved on long ago.

inputs/suggestions to replies or ignore appreciated.

:)
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What the hell does that message even mean? It makes no sense. That isn't even hate mail. This thread is lame.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am diagnosing your GF as being a retard.

"You must be bored. Empty maybe."

Something clearly a retard would write. You know what you do to retards? You ignore them.
 
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Haha, you got her good bro.

She's all hung up on you and trying to get revenge.

Don't ever respond to her message or talk to her ever again.

Just getting you to talk to her would be validation for her that she is worth something.

Don't give her any validation at all not even the smallest crumb of it. :up:
 
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thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
 
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vachir said:
thanks guys

appreciate all the input. im still learning to defuse girly mindtricks. always nice to learn here :)
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just be glad they aren't jedi mindtricks otherwise you'd be screwed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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