"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First time dealing with a girl who didn't take lightly to fun sexual regerences and told me to stop making them. After I picked on her about being uptight and asked if she usually talks to choir boys, she said no only guys with respect because sexual references make her uncomfortable.

Isn't she supposed to be into her innate desires even with verbal play subtley? I'm confused.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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One of those girls...she's got her shield up.. use less sexual references...

She won't be so rigid after you hit it....for these types it is a race downhill.. as you get closer to the finish line it gets easier
 
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This is what happened.

Her - I suck I'm 22 and still workin here
Me - you better suck or there won't be a third date! ;)

So with this girl do I respect her and not make sexual innuendos at all til we have sex? Seems like she won't see me sexually without it? Juist not used to this approach.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tryst type said:
This is what happened.

Her - I suck I'm 22 and still workin here
Me - you better suck or there won't be a third date! ;)

So with this girl do I respect her and not make sexual innuendos at all til we have sex? Seems like she won't see me sexually without it? Juist not used to this approach.
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Hahahaha

you did awesome. You are definately not in the friendzone. You have to keep pushing it even if she gives you bad reactions. Escalate, escalate, escalate.
 
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Whyd she say it makes her uncomfortable? Not understanding this type if girl. Insight?
 
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come on, this is the type of thing that people take as sexual harrassment
 
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Don't try to decipher the meaning because it probably makes no sense. It was probably just a defense so she wouldn't come off as easy. If you don't get a third date, for the next girl who has a sucky job, instead of threatening a bj for a third date, maybe you should try something else.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes, some women would find your comment offensive. Not all women have a dirty sense of humour. Some would find that comment rude and distasteful.

Yes, it was funny. But you wouldn't say it to just anyone, right?
 
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tryst type said:
Should I stop all sexual innuendos with this one?
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NO.

The worst you could do is apologizing for being a man. Keep it up and make your intentions clear to her.
 
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