"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Respect?

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First time dealing with a girl who didn't take lightly to fun sexual regerences and told me to stop making them. After I picked on her about being uptight and asked if she usually talks to choir boys, she said no only guys with respect because sexual references make her uncomfortable.

Isn't she supposed to be into her innate desires even with verbal play subtley? I'm confused.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One of those girls...she's got her shield up.. use less sexual references...

She won't be so rigid after you hit it....for these types it is a race downhill.. as you get closer to the finish line it gets easier
 

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This is what happened.

Her - I suck I'm 22 and still workin here
Me - you better suck or there won't be a third date! ;)

So with this girl do I respect her and not make sexual innuendos at all til we have sex? Seems like she won't see me sexually without it? Juist not used to this approach.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ChrizZ

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tryst type said:
This is what happened.

Her - I suck I'm 22 and still workin here
Me - you better suck or there won't be a third date! ;)

So with this girl do I respect her and not make sexual innuendos at all til we have sex? Seems like she won't see me sexually without it? Juist not used to this approach.
Hahahaha

you did awesome. You are definately not in the friendzone. You have to keep pushing it even if she gives you bad reactions. Escalate, escalate, escalate.
 

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Whyd she say it makes her uncomfortable? Not understanding this type if girl. Insight?
 

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come on, this is the type of thing that people take as sexual harrassment
 

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Don't try to decipher the meaning because it probably makes no sense. It was probably just a defense so she wouldn't come off as easy. If you don't get a third date, for the next girl who has a sucky job, instead of threatening a bj for a third date, maybe you should try something else.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes, some women would find your comment offensive. Not all women have a dirty sense of humour. Some would find that comment rude and distasteful.

Yes, it was funny. But you wouldn't say it to just anyone, right?
 

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tryst type said:
Should I stop all sexual innuendos with this one?
NO.

The worst you could do is apologizing for being a man. Keep it up and make your intentions clear to her.
 
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