Really need a man’s advice. He broke up w/ his ex. Got with me. Got back w/her. They broke up and now he’s back w/ me. Has he developed feelings?

[Dilemma99]

This guy is lovesick for his ex. Normally that alone would be enough to put other women off but you've already hooked yourself on him and see him as a catch despite him being a pathetic simp (no man with a shred of self respect admits crying over an ex to another girl, or to anyone). My guess is, he's a betabux (guy with money who can't get laid otherwise) whose never had abundance.

Anyway he wants to play BF-GF, he's thirsty for relationship energy, and since he can't get that from his ex, he's happy enough to get it from you for the time being. Are you having sex every day, or more times a day? You're both still in the honeymoon period, look up NRE (New Relationship Energy).

He might even convince himself he likes you as more than just a fvckbuddy, but make no mistake, if his ex gives him another chance, he'll dance to her tune like the simp he is, and give you another "we're friends" and "delete me" pep talk.

He's already done it once.

Well we have sex everyday that I’m out here. I don’t live here - I flew out to see him.

 

[Dilemma99]

Typical woman and over analyzing literally everything lol.

Do you think men view women they can easy have as higher value than one that he has to work for?

no

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Wger4

Well we have sex everyday that I’m out here. I don’t live here - I flew out to see him.

Where does he stay?

 

[Dilemma99]

Wger4


Where does he stay?

what do you mean? Like where does he live?

I live in TN he’s in DC

 

[mrgoodstuff]

what do you mean? Like where does he live?

Yea trying to figure out what area and the stereotypes that exist there.

 

[Dilemma99]

Yea trying to figure out what area and the stereotypes that exist there.

im in TN he’s in DC. His ex is in DC too.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

im in TN he’s in DC. His ex is in DC too.

You shouldn't sweat nobody or make all of the effort.

 

[Dilemma99]

You shouldn't sweat nobody or make all of the effort.

Effort meaning flying to see him?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Effort meaning flying to see him?

If ya'll were balanced interest levels then you wouldn't be fussing. If your fussing and you know you aren't using someone or making them do all the work then you probably have a good reason.

 

[Dilemma99]

If ya'll were balanced interest levels then you wouldn't be fussing. If your fussing and you know you aren't using someone or making them do all the work then you probably have a good reason.

true true. I just figured since he has a house and I live with my family that’s why I’m the only flying out to see him and not the other way around?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

true true. I just figured since he has a house and I live with my family that’s why I’m the only flying out to see him and not the other way around?

It's still enabling that dynamic. If he comes your way you could stay in a hotel with him. When we get people "spoiled" you can't "unspoil" them, and the fvcked up thing is they might not be "spoiled" for the next person.

 

[bat soup]

Really need a man’s advice. He broke up w/ his ex. Got with me. Got back w/her. They broke up and now he’s back w/ me. Has he developed feelings?

He's developed a sore kock.

 

[Dilemma99]

He's developed a sore kock.

What does this even mean? Lol

 

[bat soup]

What does this even mean? Lol

Put a scorpion in your underpants and you'll understand.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

okay I’ll address all of your questions.

I like him because he’s very attractive, he’s really funny, has a great job, a home, older, wants to settle down so he’s done with the dating without a purpose phase.

I got on the plane because I thought he had realized he wanted to be with be me - not his ex.

how attractive am I compared to his ex? Well we’re both petite and have curly hair so we’re similar in features.Personally I don’t think she’s all that attractive, she’s his age so she looks much older IMO, and I have a more natural look. Here are some pics of both of us. I tried to show us done up, body, face, etc. for a fair comparison

me:

http://imgur.com/q5mz31A

http://imgur.com/FSHEU2k

http://imgur.com/GO3SB5n

https://i.imgur.com/Oqz0fuD.jpg

her:
https://i.imgur.com/u1eOy53.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/IxrA2Mg.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/Mn4YMiF.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/E1xHdTq.png
https://imgur.com/a/k2OOeEc

Damn! How did I miss random hot chick pics??

Links no longer work...

 

[Dilemma99]

And he’s back to looking at her stories again lol.

I called him on FT and I saw his laptop behind him with her Instagram story on the screen. They don’t even follow each other!

 

[Hank Moody]

And he’s back to looking at her stories again lol.

I called him on FT and I saw his laptop behind him with her Instagram story on the screen. They don’t even follow each other!

Move on mamacita. This dude's running circles around you, and you're letting him.

 

[RangerMIke]

He is acting like a woman... is that what you want?

 

[Dilemma99]

He is acting like a woman... is that what you want?

NoI definitely don’t lol.

I clearly don’t have much dating experience so can you please explain how he’s acting like a woman?

 

[Velasco]

can you please explain how he’s acting like a woman

Hes a loser. Hes chasing someone who doesnt want him. You're chasing someone who doesnt want you (him). Shes chasing someone who doesnt want her. Someone you dont want (here or offline) is chasing you. Guaranteed you've received a PM or two from a member here trying consult you through these trying time lol.