ilikecharlene
Senior Don Juan
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well she maybe overweight, but only marginally so. she's certainly not obese.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The real question here is: "What's your take on this chubby girl?"rhcp83 said:what's your take on really cute chubby girls.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
LOL this exactly. Only Penis can decide if a girl is attractive or not for you :woo:Aaron B said:what your penis thinks is really all that matters bro
Haha, when it comes to PUA culture.. I just imagine dudes gaming chicks that look like this..rhcp83 said:"I'm into chicks like that more than the skinny with big fake tits LA types."
like most guys, especially on this site lol.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
More like pleasingly plump.HalfAddict said:You call that chubby?
She may be packing a few extra pounds but she's still gorgeous. A 10 though? There's no such thing as a 10, she's more of a 7(?). I can never take Americans and their rating system seriously.rhcp83 said:Was just wondering what other people thought. She wasn't interested in me anyway (And I've been told I'm good looking by other guys on this site and certainly no worse looking than her.) Maybe she thinks she deserves a 10 because of "what she's been through."
But yeah I'd do her in a heartbeat. A 10 by my standards.
I'd smash her backdoors in.rhcp83 said:what's your take on really cute chubby girls.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=34719239
i would definitely date/do a girl like this (if she was older and not into the club scene.)
I was always under the impression that cameras, mirrors and video recorders all added around 10lbs to the average person?f283000 said:I see nothing wrong with the pic op posted she looks pretty good to me HOWEVER you gotta remember that's POF so you have to automatically add 10 pounds to whatever picture you see on pof and that will give you what they probably look like in real life at the present moment
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not everyone is here to seek advice, nor do they need it. But whatever... This isn't a contest to see who's the best looking forum poster. I'm sure some of the guys on here are attractive.rhcp83 said:male 10s (in women's eyes) are rare...guys with perfectly sculpted bodies/alpha face, firefighters, cowboys, tall pretty boys, pretty boys like tom brady/derek jeter. in other words guys that wouldn't be on an advice site on how to improve with women. i call bs.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.