I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Happiness is not a choice. You cannot control whether you're happy, you control your goals, mindset, intentions, impressions, accountability, actions. You don't get to just decide to be happy and be happy. In fact being happy isn't necessarily the best end goal. You may have to suffer for 10-20 years to live your live in accordance with your values and what you decide is important.9.
I don't worry about things I can't control and always make the best out of every day.
Happiness is a choice you make as much as anything else.
Damn what happened? Why is it so low for 2023? If I may ask.2018 - 6/10
2019 - 3/10
2020 - 5/10
2021 - 7/10
2022 - 6/10
2023 - 1/10
Happiness is not a choice. You cannot control whether you're happy, you control your goals, intentions, impressions, accountability, actions. You don't get to just decide to be happy and be happy. In fact being happy isn't necessarily the best end goal. You may have to suffer for 10-20 years to live your live in accordance with your values and what you decide is important.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Several things went wrong at the end of last year that just snowballed, even though the first half of the year was going really well and I had seemingly "leveled up", only for everything to crash and burn.Damn what happened? Why is it so low for 2023? If I may ask.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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