Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Happiness is not a choice. You cannot control whether you're happy, you control your goals, mindset, intentions, impressions, accountability, actions. You don't get to just decide to be happy and be happy. In fact being happy isn't necessarily the best end goal. You may have to suffer for 10-20 years to live your live in accordance with your values and what you decide is important.9.
I don't worry about things I can't control and always make the best out of every day.
Happiness is a choice you make as much as anything else.
Damn what happened? Why is it so low for 2023? If I may ask.2018 - 6/10
2019 - 3/10
2020 - 5/10
2021 - 7/10
2022 - 6/10
2023 - 1/10
Happiness is not a choice. You cannot control whether you're happy, you control your goals, intentions, impressions, accountability, actions. You don't get to just decide to be happy and be happy. In fact being happy isn't necessarily the best end goal. You may have to suffer for 10-20 years to live your live in accordance with your values and what you decide is important.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Several things went wrong at the end of last year that just snowballed, even though the first half of the year was going really well and I had seemingly "leveled up", only for everything to crash and burn.Damn what happened? Why is it so low for 2023? If I may ask.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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