AFC_Schism
Don Juan
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree with this. Sounds like you don't like her that much if you have to ask total strangers what they think of her. Think for yourself. If you like her, who cares what someone else thinks? If you don't like her, why are you considering getting with her?There's something dysfunctional about posting your LTR on a forum to people you don't know before you start dating her.
hahaha exactly!Mistic said:Dude, ur an idiot. Who cares what a bunch of clowns on a forum think about you dating some skank.
Honestly? Because she is still young, she is maybe a 5.5. Give her a few years and she will be a 3-4 at best. But again, NONE of that matters. If you like her, if YOU think she is hot, then go for it.AFC_Schism said:I'm considering dating this girl and possibly evolving into a relationship with her, she's really good at sex, loves giving head, and is a pretty chill girl. Great personality. I'm wondering though what you guys would think if it is worth pursuing her. I'd really appreciate it if you could be completely honest with this, I do like her and I think she likes me, and I'm just wondering what you guys thought.
Two pictures:
First one she's the blonde on the right:
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Second one ignore the guy with her:
http://img715.imageshack.us/img715/2996/44290797.jpg
What do you think, worth pursuing?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.